Wife spying

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by Johntempted, Apr 28, 2019.

  1. Infrasapiens

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    What made me angry is not the fetish itself, because at the start of the thread, OP sounds like he wants to do something about it. It is his wife, he finds her attractive and loves her so I can see why he would not want to do anything drastic in fear of losing that, so he tries to just "take advantage" of the situation by pleasuring himself with it. What made me lose control is the fact that he came asking for help, and instead of paying attention to what others said about his situation, he just used that to dive further into the problem. He asked for helo but didn't really wanted it, so he made us all lose our time trying to help him. I have dealt with this kind of people before and it doesn't matter what you do, they won't get better because they like their misery being a source for attention.

    Also you like chubby girls in stockings too? Let us be friends.
     
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  2. need4realchg

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    Um.... who decides when the harmless fetish becomes harmful?
     
  3. Infrasapiens

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    It depends on what extend you take it. I consider liking stockings harmless but it would be harmful to run out in the streets with a pair of stockings in hand looking for women to force them to put them on. Maybe OP's fetish could be harmless if consent existed, maybe.
     
  4. plzrlzme

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    Wrong. He took advantage of his wife by sharing explicit photos of her without her consent. Taking advantage of himself is his own prerogative.

    You didn't "lose" time, you volunteered it.

    I will take your word for it.

    Right. It doesn't matter what you do. This is an internet forum, not the Department for Enforcing Cultural Norms. And right that he likes his misery being a source of attention. In his case, I think it is sexually thrilling. That being said, if you don't like your misery being a source of attention, what are you doing in these forums?

    Who doesn't? I think that instead of making imaginary friends online (ifriends), you should get yourself out there and bring some happiness to thick girls. Just be nice and be friendly. Don't hyperfocus or sexualize someone who doesn't invite or enjoy the attention. If you have self-confidence and hold your emotional center, you'll be drowning in thighs before you know it. Leave the porn and other internet sites behind and start living your life.
     
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  5. Infrasapiens

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    Well yes, sharing the photos was a bad move. I think it is even illegal.

    Yes, I volunteered in it, you are right.

    Then he used the forums playing the victim just for sexual pleasure, not to get help, and this forum is about helping others. I joined this forums because I do not masturbate or watch pornography, I was never an addict. And I am a very lonely guy.

    Dude, just saying "No" was enough.
     
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  6. need4realchg

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    You are a good guy @Infrasapiens thanks for your good nature. And I agree. A simple “No” would have been enough lol.

    And I love how we ended up talking about fat girls in stockings lol. I never found that worth seeing so please take my share of stares. Lool.
     
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  7. TimeToQuitNow

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    :D:D:D

    This thread has become the community talking about the OP who left a while ago. I guess he couldn't handle the truth. I hope he comes back and admits that he needs help instead of just getting off on us making fun of him and his wife cucking him. But this really shows some healthy discourse on us and our different points of view.

    Anyways the cuckold fetish won't end successful. It may work as a way to get him off but it will inevitably lead his wife to have 0 respect for him and he'll probably lose respect for himself. He probably knows that and is why he made the thread.

    I also had this fetish for a little bit but I was never married and I would only get off to women saying they would fuck a man in front of me. I wouldn't like if I actually saw it. Heck, I don't even like straight porn since I don't want to see another guy get laid (I've always been like that).

    But yea I see the purely sexual appeal since it puts the wife in the power role. And she is happy having sex with other men and he likes knowing she is happy. However, the power role established by a fetish like this would very likely bleed out to other aspects of his life. Why would his wife respect his decisions? His emotions? His anything? There is no way she sees him as a real man.
     
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  8. Infinite spirit

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    What the fuck is happening in the world?!! Is it really worth rambling?!.
    You should leave her ass if you have a millimeter of manhood. Such a cheater. Unless you like being a cuck..then by all means enjoy your cuckoldry..It's so hot!.
     
  9. letgolive

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    I agree anything that demeans another is not ok
     
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  10. plzrlzme

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    Not really. I didn't mean "buzz off." You are, unless I have you confused with another profile, a virgin who is worried he is becoming an incel. You are also intelligent, articulate, friendly, and like thick chicks in hosiery.

    I don't dislike you in any way. I just want you to get laid.

    My posts to everyone have been pretty consistent in that regard. I think that fetishizing and objectifying women/men is the obstacle that is preventing most of the guys in this section from realizing their fantasies irl.

    Smiling and being friendly (but not a "nice guy") is the single most effective way that I have ever found to spark interest in women. It works on me when women behave that way, so I would bet it works for gay men, too. Unless you are built like Adonis or packing a cruise missile, I'm guessing that is going to be the most effective way for you to meet someone. Even if you are gifted it probably doesn't hurt to be friendly and outgoing.

    You might not be addicted to porn, but I would bet you are addicted to the internet. You can't just shelter yourself from everyone and hope it all works out for you. Get the fuck out there and practice your game. Learning to pick up women is like Groundhog's Day. You keep doing the same thing over and over with subtle changes while paying attention to the response you get. Keep doing what works and abandon what doesn't. After failing many, many times, you will eventually get it right. Cast a really wide net. Don't focus on anyone until they focus on you.

    Just . . . try. Try something. Treat it like a social experiment. One method that works pretty well is to smile and start a conversation, then find an excuse to walk away and do something else. Just ignore her for awhile. Interested women will eventually come find you. Disinterested women will not. If you catch her looking at you from across the room, probably because you are self-consciously looking back, just smile like she made your day and go back to what you were doing. You're pretty much set at that point.
     
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  11. plzrlzme

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    How young are you? It's so cute when someone with such obviously limited experience thinks they understand the spectrum of human behavior.

    There are a fuckton of hotwives out there. Just because some of them leave their husbands doesn't mean all of them do, and just because a woman isn't banging dudes behind her husband's back or right in front of his face doesn't mean she won't leave him or treat him like shit. People want what they want, kid, and real grown ups don't care how their sex life makes you feel.

    Honestly, it sounds like you are insecure. Do you think that if a woman you slept with had sex with someone else she would immediately lose all respect for you?

    Or how about this: Would you lose respect for your girlfriend if she wanted to watch you have sex with her hot friend? Personally, dude, I would respect her even more. She sounds like a pretty awesome girlfriend, not the kind of person you would want to lose.
     
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  12. Hero:HOPE

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    Well let me put it like this. I want you to take some responsibility in life. I think it would be better to leave your wife because she is not a good influence for you. Yes you can try to repair this but I dont think this she will stop or at least she will do it again one day. I understand that you are in a shit situation but I want you to take responsibility for your mistakes, decisions and the things you've done right. Care much because it is important.
     
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  13. Hero:HOPE

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    You know you got me till the second paragraph and then you lost me completely. Yes I would lose all respect to my girlfriend if she wants me to do such a thing. Sex is more than just having fun. It contains love and trust as well.
     
  14. plzrlzme

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    Sex is more than just having fun--TO YOU. And, hopefully, to the women you date.

    But you don't get to decide what sex means to other people. People don't choose their turn-ons and turn-offs from lists that you provide. There are people who eat literal shit in order to get off. You can't just wish them out of existence.
     
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  15. Hero:HOPE

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    I can try xD. You know what I will give you this point
     
  16. TimeToQuitNow

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    I'm 22. I'm not insecure, I actually enjoy who I am. Someone sleeping with other people while in a relationship behind sometimes back like the case with OP is for sure disrespect. One time might be a slip up but this is on going. I don't see why I have to explain why. And I don't see why what we do sexually wouldn't affect our subconscious mind. Why would anyone build a loving relationship based on cuckoldry? Sex is supposed to build a bond between 2 people in love is it not?

    If a girlfriend of mine asked me to sleep with other women yes I'd feel uneasy. At the very least I wouldn't respect her more. Tell me, why should I? I get some people want to be polygamist but that isn't for me. As far as an open relationship her asking me to sleep with other women on the side would for sure make me lose some respect for her. And if she asked me if she could sleep with other men I would strongly consider breaking up with her.
     
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  17. Hero:HOPE

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    Fuck this thread xD I am out. No not because I am wrong but because I wont waste my time on this thread anymore
     
  18. Infrasapiens

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    I don't know at what point this became about me but ok. "Getting laid" is not going to solve my problems, in fact, knowing me even if I somehow perform perfectly, I will still think I did it wrong, and that would mean even more problems. When I am friendly I become the "Funny guy" by default and it stays like that. My internet access was cut off by some drug addict two years ago, I only like to sleep. I have no idea what Groundhog's Day is. If I do that all the rejections are going to get burned in my memory and haunt me as long as I live, I am good at remembering bad things. People have started to look at me but they don't smile or look away, they probably want my liver.
     
  19. plzrlzme

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    Because they want to.

    Did your mom teach you that? Sex is a reproductive act that we've coopted for recreation. Billions of dollars are spent every year on birth control, condoms, and even surgery to keep it that way. Sex cannot build a bond that doesn't already exist.

    You shouldn't. Be yourself.

    Lol. I like the way you stick to your guns. Trust me, if a girl asks *you* that question, *you* should definitely break up with her. You're not emotionally equipped to deal with it. Doesn't mean that someone else can't be.
     
  20. plzrlzme

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    Only the first ten or twenty stick with you. It's all starts to run together after that.
     

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