Wife spying

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  1. Johntempted

    Johntempted Fapstronaut

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    i developed into something weird. A few month ago I discovered that my wife betrays me. She is sharing nudes with two guys. It shocked me. While hurt I read the whole long chat conversations with dick pics and her quite dirty nudes. I can see that she is the driver in this. She says things and desires she never says to me. Here is the weird thing. It aroused me reading this a lot and since I did not tell her but found it hot that she betrays me and fucks other men. I downloaded the pics and the texts she has with max and Darren and I got off a few times. I know max from the tennis club. He is a nice and quite younger guy. She is 28. He is around 22. She goes lately mich more to the tennis course. I am in state of pain and hurt. But also arousal. I seek their texts and started sharing the pics with a few friends I know find her hot. I enjoy this her not knowing that they know her like that now and also the texts. It’s kind of a revenge and I also send it to a couple colleges at work who know her This too turns me on. I need to somehow change this. Anyone had something similar? How did you get out?
     
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  2. Erichpure

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    Wow!! I feel your pain. And I understand the masochistic reaction and also revenge. I think you need to talk with your wife. Possibly a counsel
     
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  3. Johntempted

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    Thanks Erichpure. Are the replies always that quickly? Are you married? Any experience like this?
     
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  4. AncestralWarrior

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    It's time you dump her immediately and never look back. Your wife cheated on you. You are so much better than this.
     
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  5. Johntempted

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    It’s weird. I showed the pics to 8 people now I am even making own ones now that I add. Yes you are right masochistic reaction. I have pleasure showing them
     
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  6. Johntempted

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    Well I have my share. I did not satisfy her because of my addiction. So she goes and gets it in her way. I love her. And she is very hot. Lol. So don’t think I want to dump her
     
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  7. Erichpure

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    You aren’t afraid it will come back to her?....well I think it’s sweet revenge you do
     
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  8. Freddiefox

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    Welcome to the community. It sounds like it is time for both of to sit down and have a long talk about what you both have been doing.
     
  9. Erichpure

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    That’s a valid point. If you don’t satisfy her he has a need too. Also what are the things she does with others she does not with you. And why? Are you not seeing her? She has longing you should fulfill? Do you have sex life at all?
     
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  10. Johntempted

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    We do have once a week. I know she likes it rough. But with them she wants it obviously way tougher. On one pic she shows herself with a gag ball. She refers to me and looks like she enjoys this too talking to them about details of our sexlofe. I did not know she likes it that exoreejev one of the reasons why I got turned on
     
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  11. Johntempted

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    Thank you!! Yes would be best. Not sure I could. Too ashamed.
     
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  12. Erichpure

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    I must say you express this quite hot. Well. Are you wanting to give these areas of her desire to her?
     
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  14. Farquhar1963

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    I was in a similar situation with my ex. She caught me a few times online- in naughty chat rooms exchanging nude masturbation pics, with both men and women. I swore it was just a phase I was going thru due to stress. She forgave me and in less that a day I was back at it. I got off not only on seeing other men jacking off, seeing women playing with their lady bits, but I found it more satisfying knowing I was doing something in secret. Eventually, even this grew tiring. That’s when I decided to stop. But I can’t. Now I’m jacking off to the ads in Sunday newspapers of models in bra and panties. I’m bisexual and have desired that salty sweet taste of another mans load squirting onto my lips. I’m new here and think it’s going to help stop these urges by witnessing some of your struggles and successes. Hoping I can keep from further masturbation sessions to discover that joy of just living a normal healthy life.
     
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  15. Freddiefox

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    Welcome to the community. It will take time but you can get through this. Read, learn and start making your plan.
     
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  16. Farquhar1963

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    It’s always easier to follow a path of wisdom lead by others. I’m feeling better each day. I’m 100% over porn, kik, and Skype to satisfy my desires but.... is it ok for an “occasional” solo masturbation session ?
     
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  17. need4realchg

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    I’m trying to understand all the angles you are describing.

    You are a PA, she is an SA, she is not focused on monogamy, but is acting out fantasies with 2 guys.

    You are showing her pics to get back at her and you love her , so getting back at her this way also arouses you.

    Is that all correct?

    Is she a PA as well ?
    Have you confronted her on any of what you know yet ?

    Have you all experimented with threesomes or exhibitionism before ?
    What do you want in your relationship?

    Are you considering an open relationship?
     
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  18. de severn

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    Sounds like you are inadvertently interested in cuckolding and you find your wife’s infidelity arousing because you’re able to pornify her / disconnect from her as a person. When you view the totality of her, she probably isn’t as arousing as she is when you remove the idea that she’s your wife. In other words, you’re getting off to her as if she was a porn prop. Plus, the sperm competition you may experience knowing who she’s talking to is an added tweek to the overall experience.

    Good luck to you.
     
  19. Johntempted

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    Bery well put. Yes pretty much nails it. But she is also as a married woman very hot.
     
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  20. Johntempted

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    WELL MAYBE IN THIS CONTEXT TO HAVE ONE IN WHICH THIS MAY BE WITH THE OTHER TWO AND I BECOME PART OF?
     
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