Ok, just curious to know how long its been since guys here around my age last had a sexual encounter. One of my motives for going on nofap is to break out of a current dry spell. Rather than reverting to PMO to deal with my sexual frustrations, I would like to teach myself self discipline and to become the most attractive version of myself - which in the long run will improve my chances of getting laid.
I haven't had sex since I've started nofap, but a lot more girls have been eyeing me up. The reason I haven't made any moves was because most of them were younger, and looked to be in highschool, but there were a few others that I just wasn't attracted to or I was in a bad mood. Quitting porn will put you way ahead of other men in women's eyes.
A few weeks ago, but I'm considering it a reset since I'm doing hard mode until marriage. My view is NoFap should be done for self-betterment; to take care of an addiction or a bad habit. To replace the time you'd otherwise PMO to pick up other hobbies and skills. While doing NoFap just for more/better sex is understandable, that mindset doesn't really help me, but that's just me.
I understand where you're coming from. Your objectives are the same as my primary objectives, but beneath these I feel the need to return to enjoying normal healthy sex without experiencing crazy, unwanted urges. So my ultimate goal is a healthy, fulfilling, regular sex life. This is different from more/better sex as I feel that is focused just on the physical act of pleasure, rather than sex in the round, so to speak.
"Ultimate goal is a healthy, fulfilling and regular sex life" - Amen to that! I totally understand all the other benefits that come from nofap/semen retention and that you should do nofap for yourself, not for the women. But personally, I think sex is too good to give up from your life completely. Regarding the other benefits - more energy, drive, confidence etc - I dont see how they will impact me much (maybe a little), because I am already very energetic, driven and confident. Its the woman attraction thing that I feel would be the most significant and tangible change in my life.
in January with my last guy. i had to start abstinence coz i was also a s addict. now even though i won over my p and s addictions for good I haven't found a guy worthy of having s with but i don't miss sex. i am confident that now i would have sex in a normal way not contaminated by the p i watched for 7 years. i feel free and not controlled by my sexual instincts anymore
Never. Waiting until marriage. This has proven to be a very difficult decision especially nowadays with casual sex and the “sexual compatibility” belief some hold. There’s also a negative stigma towards virgins or those waiting until marriage, which is something I’ve never understood. Regardless, I’ve had some women refuse to date me because of my stance and I’ve avoided horrible relationships with the wrong people because of it, so there’s a downside and upside. Either way, I hold hope I’ll find a like-minded woman; also don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying she has to be a virgin. I don’t care if she’s had an extensive sexual history, so long as she’s disease free and now a person who values waiting until marriage.
I disagree. There are casual hookups and escorts, both of which are easier to obtain than a relationship.
