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what to do AFTER 90 days challenge/reboot?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by que, Jul 12, 2014.

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  1. Jul 27, 2014 #21
    que

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    The fourteenth day now marks my all time record without orgasm (since I discovered the pleasure of it): no sex, no porn, no fapping, not even edging. Most of the last week was peaceful, when the flatline was in place. However this night and morning was a nightmare again, but I managed to handle myself without relapsing and not it's better again. However once in the while urges become so strong that I hardly understand reality. But I'm determined to push on. Some girls say that I seem to be more active, more acting on hormones, but they didn't explain what they have in mind. From what I noticed, I didn't make any sexual advances, but make more jokes about sex, etc. while in the company of friends. Now one of my biggest worries would be how to transform my excess sexual energy to useful activities. I already am working out to exhaustion (I worked out even before when I was fapping). I have many uncompleted tasks, which would be useful to devote to; however when I'm fantasizing about sex, everything else seems so unimportant. If a girl happened to offer me something sexual in such a moment of despair, I would probably miss a day of my work without thinking twice. : > I probably should try harder, however all my efforts on such occasions are already devoted to fapping prevention.
     
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  2. Jul 28, 2014 #22
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    Relapse. Everything was just stalled, I couldn't do anything to concentrate. Also the unexpectedly bad news showed up, as I felt humiliation from the words of an important girl whom I was hoping to impress over time. Tried binge eating to no avail. Only then resorted to this. It was quick, mind-blowing and messy. Now at least I feel peace, weight of day gone.
     
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  3. Aug 1, 2014 #23
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    Attempt number two. Actually the first time, while unsuccessful, was good. My relapse gave me a chance to compare my overall feeling and behavior when I'm abstaining and when I'm fapping regularly. I already miss some effects of NoFap, they were really good, I felt more confident when interacting with people. Still I have to put more effort into dealing with the downsides.
     
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  4. Feb 23, 2015 #24
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    I have completed my 90 day challenge and want to go for 365 days!
     
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  5. Jul 6, 2019 #25
    MustStopB4iam40

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    For me, having done several long streaks and having given up alcohol completely, I've landed in an OK place. I no longer immediately think of porn or masturbating as soon as I'm alone. I still use it once in a while, maybe after 10 days of no sex when I'm really conscious of needing some relief. I know I'm in a much healthier place than I was 2 years ago.
    If I can stay very aware of the danger of over-use, I think I can avoid reverting to the compulsive, obsessive behaviour. I'd rather fap once every 10 days or so (limit it to a "quickie" and then no repeat the next day) than try to abstain completely and then fail dramatically, edging and repeating for a few days and nights before trying again to quit completely.
    Let's be realistic - married life doesn't mean sex every day, or even every week in most cases. Some infrequent masturbation is fine if you can control it. I do think the 90 days and all the attempts leading up to it were helpful - but after that, see if you can manage it and keep it under control. It might be a more realistic prospect, depending how much self control you can muster!
     
    MustStopB4iam40, Jul 6, 2019
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  6. Aug 30, 2019 #26
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    I don't get why people think married life is so dull??! I have been with my wife for 10 years, longest I went without sex is probably about 3 weeks when our second child was born.

    Granted, it's mostly me that initiates sex, but we're still having loads - more so in our 30s than we did in our 20s now! I find NoFap is helping me pursue more real life sex whereas a lot of my twenties I'd settle for porn binges.
     
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