Watching porn = cheating ?

It voted it depends. My partner and I explicitly listed our boundaries in a iPhone list that we both have access to. I highly recommend doing this. No porn is on there mainly because of my addiction. So watching porn would be crossing a boundary. Which is like cheating. But some couples agree that it’s ok.

 

Whoa. Slow down there, champ. Just because someone doesn't agree with your definition doesn't amount to "words have no meaning anymore, then."

In any serious, romantic relationship, partners should have a clear, communicated idea of what their expectations and boundaries are. Just making assumptions and "winging it" is a pretty good recipe for disaster.

Some women consider porn cheating, and some women don't. Some women consider a flirtatious comment to be cheating, and some women don't. There are women in open relationships who don't even consider sexual intercourse to be cheating, as long as their partner is honest and tells them about it.

Your goal shouldn't be to get everyone to agree with you on what constitutes "cheating." Your goal should be to get on the same page as your partner.

 

I don’t always tell my partner when I relapse on porn so… that’s kind of like cheating. I feel bad about it. I just get so low and desperate when I do it. Falling into old habits to cope with my problems. Hiding is not good. I don’t recommend it. But the best way to not hide is to not do it in the first place.

 

When I responded, I didn't think about cam girls. When the poll said "watching" porn, I was thinking about prerecorded videos. Since a cam girl is a live interaction with a real person, I would consider that cheating.
Is a romantic conversation cheating, not really but it would fall into the category of what I said: "many other activities that lead up to cheating can be harmful and ruin a relationship."

 

You are saying you would feel worse off if your SO had a few romantic conversations with someone as opposed to if your SO was having passionate sex with someone else. Either way, it's not good, but I could probably salvage a relationship with a SO if they only spoke to someone. Having full-on sex with someone else would probably be a deal breaker.

 

There are thousands of situations for a cheating scenario, no matter how you define cheating. I'm not so concerned if porn or anything else is cheating. I'm here to help me not look at porn, that's my goal.
Good luck,
Nomo