To those who dealt with narcissistic family members

Sad to hear.

I'm very fortunate in my world.

Have you distanced yourself from him?

 

Great that life worked out like that.

 

The best way to react is to only care about yourself and your feelings. Don't be rude but emotionally detach from them and keep conversation and contact to a minimum (only do stuff with them that you enjoy).

 

Read The Prince by Machiavelli and the 48 Laws of Power.

if you grew up in a tough situation there’s no better advice.

 

I myself came to the conclusion that i had toxic family members that were very bad for my health, i realised they were inherently selfish people who only cared about themselves and were unable to see past their own selfish needs, and to be honest i cut them off.

People like that are not worthy of my goodwill or time. No more will they drain my resources to fuel their bullshit.
I don’t have anything to do with them now, if we come into contact it’s minimal interaction with zero emotion and i move on.

Not as easy if it’s your dad maybe, but sounds like he deserves it

 

There’s a lot in those books but one of the best lessons to take away from it is that it also teaches you how to deal with narcissists and bad actors. One completely underdeveloped muscle in western culture is when and how to deal with people who will take advantage of you.

 

Truthfully no i cant say they would be categorised as true narcissists, although in my opinion have some characteristics, if i could some them up I’d say they’re just a bunch of wankers

 

My grandparents on my father's side are rich racists I feel the best way to handle family members with really negative traits is to just distance yourself from them. My grandparents spoiled me a lot as a kid buying me toys, taking me on trips, and great food. But I don't think they ever really cared about anyone but themselves they also gave my father and aunt bad childhoods since they abused them.