I am obsessing on all the possible triggers next week brings and afraid I am going to relapse. 1. My family will be out of town for the week: I will have the house to myself and being alone (Privacy, not lonliness) is a major trigger. In the past, I was in the habit of undressing and start masturbating as soon as I would see the car leave the driveway even if they were only gone for the afternoon. Now I have a week - it is going to be near impossible to control my urges. 2. Cannabis is going to be legal: Although I have given up smoking weed during my reboot to help realign bad habits (I used to smoke 10 - 15 times a day) it is a major trigger. I would smoke excessively when I PMO, especially when I was edging (sometimes for 3 - 4 hours before orgasm). It is going to be legalized in 3 days and I know as soon as that happens I am going to start fantasizing about old habits. It is made worse by the fact that I have ADHD and weed helps calm my brain - Luckily it will no longer be illegal but worried if I start smoking again I will start to exhibit addictive behaviors. On the other hand thinking it would help with what I am experiencing now. When I smoke I rarely feel stoned/high. - It has a mellowing effect on my racing thought pattern. 3. Beach Weather: It is forecast to very hot over the next week and the Lake is only place to keep cool. Of course it will be flooded with beautiful women wearing almost nothing. I have switched to wearing a cap instead of sunglasses so I am less likely to lear but know I will be tempted from over stimulation. I am coming up on my first week of hard mode (No PMO) and feeling really good about my progress but woke up in a panic worrying about everything working against me in the near future. Any advice would be appreciated.
Whenever u see a girl or woman ,say thank u very much in mind . This help me sometimes to think better about them.
try this: whenever you see a girl, think of her like she isyour siste and treat her like she is. whenever you see an old woman think of her like she is your mother and treat her like she is. whenever you see a boy or teen or whatever think of him like he is your brother and treat him like he is. whenever you see an old man think of him like he isyour father and treat him like he is.
Darwin: Since you have a list, I'll respond accordingly. Being alone in the house - Stop thinking about the future and live today. You're planning and scheming is part of the acting out, I know, I use to do the same thing. I would think about when the house would be empty, even if it was only a few hours, then be ready to jump on the computer and lose myself in porn. Invite some friends over for movies or a BBQ or, god forbid, board games. Or, plan to get out of the house and away yourself. Dude, your 47 and New England is an easy place to travel in (I know, I grew up in Rhode Island). And why aren't you spending the time with your family? The Fourth on a Wednesday sucks for working stiffs, but that's no reason to act out. The evil weed - Yup, been there done that, but not for the ADHD reason. Smoking as much as you mention would have left me in a coma! But if weed => PMO, then don't smoke, even if it means a run-amuck brain. I am clueless about how to deal with the ADHD issue, but there have to be some reasons online you can tap into. Beach Bitches - Apologies for the derogatory word, but I'm using it in the sense of "complaints". Simple answer here, DON'T GO TO THE LAKE. If it's going to be hot, head to WalMart and get yourself a cheap wading pool. Fill up the pool, set up some tunes, crack a cold beer and start the BBQ. Invite some bros over to chill feet in the pool and have some good old mano a' mano time (it's amazing how keeping your feet in water lowers the overall heat effect). I know the wading pool sounds lame in the bro context, but some quiet time alone to think and NOT ACT OUT, might be just the thing you need to take your reboot effort to the next level. Good luck, man!
This is too funny. I just had my first reset after a five day no PMO streak. The reason was I woke up from an intense wet dream and had a vivid fantasy of having sex with my step-sister and couldn't control the urge to not MO. To be fare, I didn't grow up with her and she is an adult in her late 20s (super cute) but i thought that maybe sharing would lighten the mode. This is difficult process and many here are dealing with depression and anxiety. I hope I didn't offend anyone but it is the truth. Hopefully sharing story will help someone else not feel alone when they have crazy urges 'out of left field' Thanks Mohammed for the advice - I will think of any cute girl on the beach like my natural/real sister and that will help not objectify her.
