SUFFERING WITH CUCK FANTASY

Hey Warrior,

I don't know the ultimate solution but I can tell you I'm in the same boat and it gets better. You're young and already have a leg up on a lot of people still watching P. Continue not watching P and slowly the victories of self mastery will help build up your self confidence.

1) Build your self confidence and the cuck feelings will disappear. Focus on Academics and Athletics, these are two simple things that will help build discipline and victories. These are also attractive features that will help you find another partner.
2) The feelings will disappear the more experience you have. Sex is just about practice and finding what your partner likes. Worried that you won't be able to stay hard? Practice M in a condom, your body will adapt.
3) Try to understand that porn is not reality. Porn companies make BILLIONS off of the insecurities of men. It's within their best interest to turn you into a voyeur instead of someone with a healthy sex life.

Understand that you are good enough and only getting stronger everyday

Progress Daily

 

If you're looking for a one-time fix that will make your life instantly better and get rid of your desires permanently, you won't find one. Anything that claims to be an easy one-time fix for difficult problems is a scam.

This is a multilayered issue and so no one thing will solve all of your problems, but my advice is this:

Recognize that you are in control of your thoughts. If you don't want to think about something during sex, don't expect someone else to solve that problem. Only you can. As for how to do that, there are a lot of techniques. A lot of fetishes do go away after not viewing porn for a while, but you mush choose not to watch.

To not get distracted, find what distracts you and use something other than porn. I like exercise, but as long as it helps you handle your feelings, a lot of things can work.

As you recover, you will fail whether in minor or major ways, but you must choose to keep going.

We're here to help you and give you advice, but in the end, nothing we do can make you recover. There is no magic cure. But you can recover. It takes time. It takes effort.

 

1. Stop watching porn. If you feel like it, embrace traditional masculinity. Start lifting and get a good diet.
2. Stop watching porn. Your sexual tastes will revert back to normal after a while and you won't like cuck fantasies anymore.
3. Distract yourself. When you get a craving go do pushups or go to the gym etc.

 

I have this same problem @soosman ! See my intro in New to Nofap, things I hate #5. I'm 45. I never had a cuckold fantasy in all my girlfriends until I started with heavy masturbation. I really think it's due to the addiction and if you treat the addiction, the cuckold fantasies will disappear.

I had a problem with cuckold thoughts and gay thoughts (though I'm straight and never wanted to share my girlfriend with anyone) until I realized what they were: submission. I wanted to be submissive because I was watching porn and masturbating and felt like I was a submissive pussy. Submitting to a man screwing your girlfriend is really no different than submitting to him screwing you. I had to tell myself to stop being a pussy and man up, be the man I am and was before all this masturbation addiction, be the man I want to become. That helped me greatly. The masturbation rots one's self-image and cuckold fantasies are the natural by-product of the cycle.

 

Hi, if you'd like to manage your urges I can send over a book that perfectly explains how people relapse and helps you understand why porn is bad and what leads us to the decision of relapsing, I've read it in June 25 and just like you, I would always relapse and feel guilty for so long feeling down, etc. Being stuck in a devilish circle but once I read this book in June 25 2022, I only relapsed six times since.

You won't need to use distractions or willpower like most people tell you, you need to face your urges and understand that it's a lie to make you more sad in the end, so you can avoid them.
This book is super short, it's called How to quit porn by Celibate Yogi, I highly recommend it.