Stopping creepy behavior

Wait... You've been doing this... For the Past two years... With... Teenage girls?! And you're in your what 30s now?!

 

Not at the moment unfortunately, I am still trying to comprehend all this. However the best suggestion I can give you is this: Stay away from the Women's Clothing section! There is no reason (Unless you're in England, Portland, or California, In which case the Clothing sections get confusing because of Politically-Correct lawmakers.) Any man should go to the women's section.

 

In my opinion the best thing you can do is that when you go into places where you might be tempted to record someone, leave your phone at home or in the car. If you don't have it with you, then you can't record them.

 

It's good that you're admitting to it but you hit the nail on the head. You can't be doing this stuff. You'd probably be a good candidate for sex addicts anonymous. Considering the severity of it get help as soon as possible and don't downplay the need for help.

One day, you will recover from this and be freed from the shame. Admitting you have a problem is step one.

 

Would you like to be treated as an object?

 

This addiction manifests itself in many ways...we are many and varied. However, making comments such as the one you made add zero value to this community and could actually be counterproductive to ones recovery. I would suggest a thorough education on how this addiction works and the countless different ways people struggle with it. This addiction is not specific to just P, and judging one's behaviors because they're different from yours is completely missing the point of this recovery community.

 

Try finding a sex addict recovery group, like S.L.A.A and getting a sponsor. There you can talk to people who will understand you and not judge. Therapy is also and option.

 

First question that you have to answer to yourself is

What do you really want to do?

If you really want to stop that behavior, i'm sure you will figure out how to do deal with it.

But, if you don't want to stop it, be aware that you won't.

 

I second what others have said. Leave the phone in the car. Find a group like SA, SAA or SLA where you can open up more and talk about this stuff. Posting about it on here was a great step too.

Unless you are in a relationship with a lady and are going shopping with her or buying her a gift.

 

Please do not hesitate to get professional help. Therapist or psychologist will help you to get to the root cause of this and stop it. Don't think you're weak or gone beyond repair if you are seeking help. That is normal, we are very complex and emotional beings that's why there is professional for that.

 

Identify the cues of your behaviour, and what pushes you to move out and start recording...If you can overturn that then the rest will be easier

 

Heal your deep wounds.
Pursue peace and love.
Lower your stress/ anxiety levels.

Women are beautiful but you need to start seeing their inner beauty first and foremost.
Do semen retention and i will guarantee you will start becoming more interested in their personality.


Don't be hard on yourself.

 

I contemplated the same thing in a bad time a few years back... I did my research, which I think helped me rationalise it away.

Apparently most of the time it doesn't work with technical issues, the whole camera setup thing is very expensive, and people DO get caught!

And just like any other thing we overdo like pics, videos, tabs on the screen - it's never enough. Never brings what we want.

Going from this point to where you're mostly living a fulfilling life might take some time. But that's arguably the BEST use of your time.

And when you're more or less there, walking up to those same women and starting a normal conversation is just as exciting, but in a healthy and fulfilling way with no regrets.

 

I would film my crush and engage in very risky behavior. Hard mode is the answer. You're feeding the beast and perpetuating the cycle. The urge will stop after hard mode.

 

"Hands up"

I have done this, I feel awful and it really effects my self esteem, personally for me I think its all related to porn addiction and just being like a dog on heat all the time.

Its probably the lowest thing I have ever done in my life, it makes me feel sick just writing about it now.

This is day 1 for me, I want to stop, I need to stop.

Delete everything you have, don't even be tempted to save one last video or picture, delete it and move on! That's what I have done today and I feel A LOT better for it.

Its not the person you want to be, I know I don't want to be this person and I feel terrible.

We all make mistakes, write it up as a learning opportunity and do something about it.

 

Your will to change is sufficient, bro. Find a psychologist while there is still time.

 

Girls in malls or walking down the street and your behind them,, I know the excitement of the anticipation of what u are doing, thinking, or recording for later enjoyment can have on your desire..(trust me!) but you need to think of the consequences of ur actions first...message me if u need help

 

this is definitely an example of extreme escalation. what you are doing could land you in a lot of legal trouble and possibly even incarceration. next time, yes of course leave your phone in your car. but also really deeply contemplate what would happen if you were caught. the embarrassment, family shame, the erasure of career potential, being labeled a sexual predator.

also, you wouldn't want someone secretly recording you in public. you'd be upset if you caught someone doing that to you.