"soft" porn (tiktok,pinterest) has made me feel bad for not being feminine. Any help?

The "masculinity" you are talking about here is more about the external aspect of those "gender stereotypes", but not the real masculinity.

True masculinity, for example, includes qualities such as diligence, being responsible, courageous, and with big visions. There is no guilt for acquiring these.

In other words, you can be masculine, yet at the same time not muscular and be "hair-less".

Maybe it is time for us to stop overemphasizing the external appearance and phenomena, or the "sexual part" of the "masculinity" (e.g. with female attention or things like that). There are many more precious things inside a true man than sexual attraction.

 

You could see it as something unnatural, artificial. Probably most of them are not what they show in tiktok, only do this for attention, likes and status. Being masculine is natural, it comes from you and not from a desire for attention.

It's better be yourself, who you are naturally than try to emulate behaviours to look like who you are not. Btw, avoid tiktok at all, that social media is trash. I recommend you use another if you want to watch interesting/funny videos.

 

do u want to be a girl?

 

So, you like women but you want to appear less masculine in order to appeal to them? You know, from a standard position in reality that is usually what women DON'T want when being in a serious relationship with a man.

If you want to be that "idolized desire" for woman for what you see on social media (prettyboys, maybe some aesthetic bullshit but more related to a "less masculine appear") that is just INSIDE social media and, this is my opinion, but you should never take anything from social media as a realistic reference or comparison from your own life.

Well, no wonder why you doctor said you don't need t tests because it has nothing to do, on the surface there is nothing wrong with you, it's not like your t levels are low and that's why you have such ideas, maybe is a little bit deeper than that.

My boy VikingThor and desmond3 are right, and I think you should get off platforms like tik tok, it really has no value at all.

Hey, hit me up, I'd really like to hear more from you, maybe we can work this up.