As part of my restraining from masterbation, I have also abstained from orgasm during sex. I just had sex with my wife but without cumming. I was far more attentive to her needs and brought her to orgasm orally and then by penetration twice more before stopping. I was far more affectionate and verbally engaging. Saying I love you just flowed from my lips. After we got dressed, I still wanted to give her so much affection and did. It is far more enhancing to our relationship and makes me feel more energetic and alive.
I've done this a few times with my wife too! Makes me all cuddly and loved up afterwards, and full of energy!!
Thanks for sharing that! It really changes your perspective. Makes arousal that much more common which is hard, but how she receives the attention is such a huge payoff. She’s glowing more to her own admission since I give her so much more affection.
It works for me too. I get much more pleasure myself from the sustained attention to my body and hers of slow sex. Although we keep things cool for the both of us. My wife enjoys the slow journey as well and doesn't like the focus being on orgasm. I used to be so obsessed thinking that if I did give her orgasms I was a successful lover, rather than recognising it was my overall attention to her in and out of bed which really shows my love.
That’s exactly what I am learning. I’m more empowered now to never fap again and porn is being deleted from my go to site saves. Not orgasming with her and at all really heights the attention I give her in and out of the bedroom. I feel so much more alive and energized that I focus the new found energy on her. She has embraced it saying she feels beautiful and loopy from all the attention and the multiple orgasms she now has when I focus all the attention on her. It just makes me want to be with her more. It’s self fulfilling as long as you know you are not going to orgasm.
Glad you are enjoying sex with out male O - it's often referred to as Karezza. My wife and I are currently alternating between periods of karezza and normal sex. I definitely enjoy it and find that when I do O regularly, I begin to fall back into bad habits and stop focusing as much on my wife. My arousal is also a lot higher when I abstain for a while. It's odd but I appreciate karezza when I'm doing it but I feel reluctant to go back to it after Oing for a while. I've just started another stint of 'hard mode' so we will see how it goes.
Not for most men. The whole 'blue balls' thing is rather exaggerated. It can happen sometimes but the story that men have to orgasm every time they have sex is a myth. I wonder who could have started it? ANH