Sex is a high prioity.

I agree with you that having sex or getting a girlfriend won't solve porn addiction, but that's not the point I was trying to make. My point is that it's frustrating to see the dismissive attitude many (I don't mean you or anyone on this thread specifically, I mean in general) have toward sexually unfulfilled men. Men who struggle with sex or relationships are forced to endure their own person hell, in a society where sex is everywhere. It's on TV, in movies, in books. Constantly pushed at you from all sides. Most men suffer in silence because if they dare say anything, they are relentlessly bullied. I think OP's desires, when you take away his comedic wording, are very natural. There's only so much loneliness and rejection a man can take before they can't hide the frustration anymore.

I got the impression that OP was using hyperbole to get his point across. He's also not in the early stages of recovery - he stated he has been abstaining for 5 months. That's a long time in my eyes.

 

I appreciate your honesty and personally its not so much about sex for me as it is about intimacy in general. If I only wanted to get off, I would never want to quit porn in the first place. Its something deeper that needs to be resolved. I can say that I want sex all I want and in a certain way it is about as high on my priority list as it is for you but whenever an opportunity actually presents itself, I chicken out. I dont want the actual difficulty of it. The emotions, the risk of someone becoming attached (mostly thinking about the girl since I am deathly afraid of commitment) and so on. In the end, I realize that what I really want is intimacy. The sex part is still relatively important but I wouldnt go to a prostitute for example because it would feel fake.

 

Same here, I crave intimacy with a woman I’m truly attracted to more than anything

just hugging and holding hands while watching a movie with a girl I actually like would be more satisfying to me than having sex with a prostitute