Religion and communication have been key

I started this journey with nofap a long time ago. Since then I've gone back and forth between trying to quit porn and falling back into the habit. I've been with my wife for years and love her to death. However for a while our sex life was lacluster. We could just never get onto the same wavelength. I would be horny when she wasnt and vice versa. We both masturbated more than we had sex. It was a problem. It was a bit of chicken and egg issue. Were we watching porn and masturbating because our sex life was bad or was it bad because of PMO? Often times I would go a month or so without PMO but find that I couldn't white knuckle it anymore. She would often get mad at me for doing nofap because she said it made me act differently. So inevitably I failed everytime.

Around the time our son was born our sex life improved considerably. We spent a lot of time together and formed a newer, more organic connection. PMO was rare during this time. About this time we began exploring the church more and more. God has really been a large force in our life as of recent.

I still PMOed from time to time but much less than before. I found rather quickly that my taste for extreme stuff began to reduce. I started to crave more normal sexual stuff. We got married in the catholic church officially a few weeks ago and we confessed before hand. I confessed to porn and masturbation and made the decision to quit that day.

I still have cravings. Cravings for new and exciting things but with God's strength ive managed to keep them at bay. My wife has quit PMO too. Its interesting to see her struggle as well. But with us both doing it were both horny all the time. We went from having sex once to twice a month maybe to 3-4 times a week. We communicate our needs well and are amenable to each other. Our sex is lovely and passionate and legions better than masturbation. The cravings are so primal and get in the way of love. I want to thank God and this community for existing while I continue on this journey. I'm not fixed or cured or anything like that yet. But I'm doing pretty well. And im grateful to have such a wonderful wife to share my journey with.