I found in statistics that girls addiction is also very high. Like 25%. But here are so little. My addiction is that I watch porn and then want to chat with a random guy. Maybe the type of porn is different and that’s why so few girls are here?
And also you mentioned that your addiction is something that is along with chatting with a random guy, don't you think finding a female AP would be better ?
When I first joined here a few years ago, I wasn't sure if I was even allowed to, being that I'm a woman. So maybe women just don't feel as welcome here? I don't think that's a fault of the site, it's just more common for men to struggle with this stuff, and less taboo for men to admit that they struggle with it. And I would imagine a lot of women might rather go to a site or a group that is female-only.
This is obviously a male dominated site, and I'm not sure if that matters to most women, but I believe a lot of it comes down to the shame of admitting their addiction or "problem" to all these people online. It's such a huge commitment and thing to do on the internet, maybe they'd rather seek a therapist or something more private instead? Could be anything really. Honestly for me it doesn't bother me at all, there being men here makes no difference to me. I know a lot of women that are addicted to masturbation, and others that are to porn as well. I don't know the statistics of anything but last I heard women were catching up to men in the addiction department.
I think your right. Maybe girls are scared we might judge them and find it hard to tell the truth. I do feel its important to open up in order to heal. ------------------------------------------------ I don't know if this will help but I would say don't worry about what other people think and ask for help if you need it. No one knows who you are and your behind a computer screen. No one knows who I am and I will just open myself up as best as I can. People will judge and we all have different believes. Who cares anyway. Get as much help as you can and really try and get good at nofap. Learn as much as you can and be porn free for life.
It's probably just the nature and confusingness of women, we have lots of factors and such for doing what we do compared to men, and I think a lot of it is maybe too much pride? I wouldn't know and am just assuming, I could be wrong though, we are mysterious. lol
I'm thinking that could be due to physiological differences. And the fact that most people dont view porn as a legitimate addiction. I'd expect that more men would be willing to admit they have this addiction even though this site is pretty much anonymous. Alot of guys seem to come here after suffering PIED and other adverse physical and social effects. Once you experience something like that you cant really ignore your addiction. Often times you need a wake up call in order to take that extra step so that could contribute to it somewhat.
As stated, porn use and porn addiction are considered a male problem in society, which results in women either feeling ashamed of porn use due to them being female, or hopeless because she thinks she's the only woman with the issue, etc. I definitely don't think porn use among women is anywhere near what men do, but I also do think there are more women addicted to it than what statistics show. Plus, how erotica (which tend to be a more popular medium for women compared to videos/pictures) is defined may also play a role, as erotic novels such as ones dealing with *belch* a certain Christian Gray *belch* grew popular. Some consider it porn while others don't (more in the P-sub group).
I don't know girl but there are females here. I've always felt more comfortable amongst boys as friends so I don't care. I was in a female group on WhatsApp and I had to leave that number and I was never rejoined with the new one. But it's true, we're mysterious, I would never go to tell my therapist about this, I'm pretty sure she would say it's normal and that doesn't helps me a fuck, so I rather this place, I'm perfectly happy in here BTW I never watched porn videos, my problem was erotic literature and MO, I got rid of erotic lectures like 4 months ago, I'm struggling with MO right now.
From my experience AP's aren't the best thing to have - a lot of them end up ghosting you or don't understand what you're going through. It's best to join an AP group because there's a number of people who can help you. Really though I think learning why you're looking at porn and how the brain works is better than anything an AP can give you.
you are not alone. i am a girl too girl power i had p and s addiction until i quit almost 10 months ago forever i sort of chatted with some people years ago more to have friends and obviously guys would chat with me. it can be dangerous this circle like dating apps too instead of being alone you try to fill this void with random people and some can take advantage of you and then you get addicted coz it boosts your ego etc. all of this is bullshit as you already know it. just know you are not alone. other girls have these destructive addictions but so many are winning over them thanks to nofap. an amazing motivation for you, stay strong and this a channel of a girl who does nofap
I agree. I find support from a lot of people here, in my journal and just PM chatting and stuff, but I don't really think of any of them as my "AP." I sort of have an AP from a few years ago, I still talk to her a lot and I know I can go to her for help. But that only works because we're good friends now, and we have a lot in common and understand each other. It definitely wasn't a forced AP relationship. I'm not a fan of those, personally.
My guess as to the ratio of guys to girls is that the effect for guys is more obvious. No matter what background you come from, as a guy, not being able to get hard sucks. That is code red, defcon 1. This is can't reproduce status. For ladies, the biology is different, and they might not have as clear physical cues. Maybe desensitization, but at the end of the day you can still reproduce.
