Premature Ejaculation a Product of PMO?

Hey man, same age as you. A small portion of it is aging. I think most men see some small degree of decline in their ability to effortlessly become aroused to get and maintain an erection after their mid-twenties, so keep that in mind. However, the majority of the issues for me were directly related to this addiction.

Porn addiction messes with the physical sensitivity of your penis and makes it more difficult to mentally become aroused in a way that's conducive to having good sex. As a PMO addict trying to have normal sex, you sometimes find yourself having to put in an inordinate amount of effort both mentally psyching yourself up to become aroused and physically stimulating your penis. You basically have to excite yourself to near the point of ejaculation to create an erection that's suitable for penetration, but that obviously means that you'll finish much faster than you want to once the sex actually starts.

The correct way to do it is be aroused while remaining relaxed mentally/physically, and being present in the moment. An erection is a relaxation response. You need to work on recovering for long enough where the thought of sex with your wife becomes arousing without having to be nervous about your performance. The experience should be free of anxiety, pressure to perform, etc.

I've had some embarrassing experiences due to my porn addiction as well, but I've been porn free since the start of the year and I'm able to perform like I want to again. It takes a lot of time and hard work, but it will get better if you stay committed to your recovery. Good luck!

 

I'm on nofap for almost a year, had 2 longs streaks (72 and 45+ days) and plenty of shorts. Now it's much easier to maintain erection, but premature ejaculation has appeared.
I talked to my girlfriend that I need time to recover. Apparently we need to continue working, I believe this negative consequence of PMO will also pass

 

So there are two things that need to be separated. First you might have PE problems which are caused by your PMO behaviour. This might be indeed cured over time just by abstaining from PMO and maybe embracing a healthy sex life.

The other thing is that nofap might make it even harder for you at the beginning because you have to get used to the fact that you only release with a partner and not with yourself.

 

I firmly believe that PE is a symptom of too much porn use. When I was PMO binging, I was training my self to O very quickly because it felt good and my brain made the connection between feeling good down there and Oing. Therefore, when I was having sex with my then wife, I would PE because of the connection. I would last maybe 1-2 minutes even slowly. I even remember a Reddit AMA with a famous P-star in which she was asked how to stop PE and she flat out said it was because they PMO'd too much. She also suggested Kegels which I agree with as well.

I had a period of about a month or so where I didn't PM and my then-wife and I ended up having sex nearly every day with her. At first I PE alot, but something changed around 2-3 weeks in. Some of the PE issues went away, and I started to actually enjoy it and be in the moment. If you think these issues will continue for the foreseeable future, then maybe doing the opposite might work for a little bit. What do I mean? Think about baseball, math, the curtains. anything besides Porn or sex. Relax your self. The more stressed out you get, the more likely you will PE. You can do this!

 

Opposite for me here. I have to pump away for like 1-2 hours before I finish. Only rarely if I’m extremely in the mood will it happen quickly like 15-20 minutes.

Seems more like a symptom of not finishing as much. Hoping if I can abstain for long enough I can have an experience like that too

 

And another thing, I found in article
Is my premature ejaculation (PE) related to my porn use?:
NOTE: If you have just finished a reboot and experience uncharacteristic premature ejaculation during initial intercourse events, don’t worry. It will pass.

 

Its not gonna take you so much time if you start intensively training, working out, pursuing your goals and passions. It depends on a person, but your healing time can be a lot faster by doing this.

 

My wife is a physical therapist specializing in pelvic floor. She has access to the literature, and treated this problem with patients before.

Neurologically, masturbation is not the same as sex. I repeat, as far as your brain is concerned, humpin' and wankin' are two separate activities.

First things first; check in with your partner and see what she wants. If what you consider to be PE is an issue for her, go ahead and work on it. If not, and it's surprising to us but they don't always have the same standards as we do, don't worry about it.

If you do decide to work on the problem, the way to do that is basically through acclimation therapy. Edge, but with your partner. Communicate. Don't worry too much when you pop off too early, I'm told it gets better. And of course, do what you can to make sure she's happy, even through means other than PIV.

Best of luck, and have fun.

 

PE goes within 100 days of abstaining from P and M and that's the only one time solution, all others are only temporary. Start doing kegel excersize on daily basis, it will boost your recovery from PE.

 

They definitely are, it is encouraging to see someone not being able to go near to intercourse performing for 5 minutes now! Well done.

 

Yes Pmo is a huge factor to P. E. I used to have D.E, I'd go two hours without ejaculating, to not lasting 5 minutes P. E, I know starting training my body.. I couldn't last a minute of oral sex, I've started relaxing my body during oral, thinking about other stuff during oral etc just plain relaxation and I got better now I can go for 20 minutes or more until she gets tired, but penetration is still a problem, I still need to find the rhythm of relaxation when thrusting back and forward if you know what I mean. The key is to relax, I think pmo Conditions our bodies and brains to get excited and achieve orgasm very quickly it was such in my case. The aim is to heal from porn addiction first... Then start conditioning my body to normal frequencies of orgasmic sex, I am taking all the time I need to heal, no pressure to perform or get my body to heal as fast as I want it to. You will heal, we all will. It just takes time that's all.