Pickup women at grocery stores, fear, excuses etc

After approaching over 60 women now and getting rejected by all of them, I've come to the conclusion that cold approach really doesn't work, unless you're in a bar or nightclub, because women usually go there to meet guys. Plus, they're usually drunk and much easier to get when they're under the influence.

When women are out shopping, at the gym, walking around, eating dinner etc.. they're doing those things to DO THOSE THINGS, they're NOT looking for some random guy to approach them. Talking to a random woman is going to be seen as INTRUSIVE, CREEPY and WEIRD.

I would say 99% of women would not give a random guy they don't even know a chance unless the guy is Brad Pitt. Women are not like us, they need to feel safe with and get to know a man first in order to want to be romantic with him. Think about it, a girl doesn't know who you are. You could be a serial killer or rapist and she would have no clue.

For us, we see a beautiful girl with great legs and we want to marry her without ever speaking to her lol. Women ARE NOT LIKE US!

I've actually received many negative responses as well, I felt like many women thought I was a creep for approaching them. Very awkward and I really don't think I'll ever approach another woman because it's really humiliating to feel like a girl thinks you're a creep. Not a good feeling.

Oh and if it helps, I'm very confident and many people think I'm very attractive, and I'm still getting shot down by every woman in sight.

My friend once told me, "You're a really good looking dude. If you're getting constantly rejected the rest of the men out there are completely SCREWED. We should all just give up and not even try if you're getting rejected this much!"

 

Does anyone anywhere who advocates cold approach consider context? Sure I understand being spontaneous but doesn't it stand to reason there are different approaches to different contexts? Ridiculous simple thing would be the products in the store. Maybe she also likes Digiorno pizza.

 

If you're just looking to hookup, nothing beats a bar or a club for a cold approach. I'm in my 30s though, I thought the whole point of tinder and other dating apps was so you don't have to cold approach. If you're looking for a relationship, just about everyone I know met their partner at school or work or a social circle event like a friend of friends party, wedding etc.

 

Exactly, you just echoed what I said above lol.

Perfectly said.

 

No man I've been told by lots of people I'm really good looking, not just him. Probably over 40 people have told me I'm attractive. Not trying to sound arrogant, but its true.

 

Do you really think approaching 60 women is enough ? Man, it's a long term process. I approached 500 girls before getting my first result. It took me 1 year. Then it was easier. Just take action, question yourself, and you will grow

 

Self acceptance man, self acceptance ^^
Accepting to be imperfect, and still taking action. That changed everything. And that leads to self love, and fulfilling relationships

 

Women, they want the truth. Not your ego. Just show yourself fully as you are, with honesty. And if it doesn't work, don't beat yourself up, it's not necessarily your fault.

You don't have to be perfect.
Don't seek perfection, learn to be okay with the negative instead.

 

Well, I think you just proved my point. If it takes 500 approaches to get 1 result, then why even try? It seems like way too much work for a tiny little chance something might happen. 1/500 = 0.2% chance. Yea, no thanks lol. I'd rather flee from the humiliation and awkwardness than take that tiny little chance.

Cold approach is stupid, humiliating and most of all, INTRUSIVE. Every girl I've asked about cold approaching told me it's creepy, weird, thirsty and needy.

Argue with me or not, but cold approaching women is intrusive. Girls WILL feel uncomfortable when you do it and it will make you feel like a creep.

All that for a 0.2% chance the girl will actually want you? No thanks.

 

I was responding to @Spirituss. He's the one who went 1/500, not me lol.

Furthermore, the odds of getting a woman from cold approach are very slim. You can look it up on YouTube. Pickup artists calculated it from thousands of approaches and they found that you can get 1 girlfriend from approaching 100 to 200 women. So were not doing something wrong, the method (cold approach) is wrong.

That's odds are insane and just not worth the embarrassment tbh.

Also, you have to remember that the girls who do give you their numbers are probably not the highest quality women you can find. I've never heard of a nice Christian girl giving her number and dating a dude she doesn't even know.