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Paraphilic diaper disorder, what do i do?

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by JacobHazelnut, Nov 13, 2023.

  1. JacobHazelnut

    JacobHazelnut New Fapstronaut

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    Hello, i have a paraphilic diaper disorder and I don't know what to do about it.
    When i was 14 y/o i discovered i had a sexual interest in diapers. But what I've come to realize is that it's something that has always been a part of me. Ever since I was child i remember getting hard whenever I'd watch a specific cartoon of Donald Duck getting diapered and treated like a baby. Back then i didn't understand it, but now i do.

    After my discovery i had a couple years of porn addiction, but i luckily got over it when i was around 18. I've been porn-free for almost two years now, and i don't plan on ever going back. But even though I'm porn free, i still feel heavily addicted to this sexual fetish. I still frequently have dreams about diapers, and whenever i do masturbate the only thing that can get me hard is thinking about diapers.

    It just seems that this paraphilic diaper disorder has always been a part of me, and I'm just scared it always will be. Is it even possible to get rid of non porn-induced fetish?
    Being sexually attracted to diapers is really weird, and i quite frankly hate myself for it.

    What should i do? I'm currently 20 days into a 90 day hardmode reboot, and it hasn't really been too difficult this far, but I'm still worried this isn't gonna solve the fetish issue.
     
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  2. Mangold

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    Start with not hating yourself for it, if that's possible.
    Then I would suggest to talk with professionals and/or other folks with the same fetish. Maybe you can find here some folks that have experience with this very special interest. Also some other fetishes might be comparable and you might get some helpful ideas from other themes.
    Don't think you're alone with this - you're certainly not.

    To me it sounds like a thing that usually would come and go away in the early stage of sexuality. But what do I know! I'm sure there are methods to deal with this issue, for example shifting the sexual arousal to other areas.
    Maybe you can start there for yourself: water the seeds that you want to let grow and ignore the seeds that you want to let wither.

    When you say you're in a hardmode reboot, what do you actually abstain from?
    You talk about the diaper thing, as if it was the only object that gets you aroused. But even in these kind of fantasies (porn?) there has to be subjects and a story, I assume. And probably diapers are not the one and only thing that you're sexually interested.
    And generally speaking, the reboot could be helpful or not - is it a part of the solution or is it simply the wrong approach to your individual issue? That's the question here, I guess.

    Hopefully this was in some way helpful :)
     
  3. JacobHazelnut

    JacobHazelnut New Fapstronaut

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    I’ve tried to engage in the community, but I don’t feel their view on sexuality matches mine. Most of them live by the a philosophy that goes: “If it ain’t hurting no body, and it feels good, then it is good”.
    And while I definitely understand their POV I just feel a bit more skeptical.
    I know how damaging sexual addiction can be, and I’m worried that “accepting” this fetish will just lead me down a rabbit hole.
    I’ve tried accepting it in the past, but it always just leads to an unhealthy addiction. I don’t know how to balance it, without feeling like it takes up too much space.
    I just feel it’s so intertwined with my identity somehow, and I just don’t want that to be true. I don’t want a fetish to define my life, but at the same time I don’t feel like getting rid of it is a possibility either.
     
  4. JacobHazelnut

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    Currently I am fully abstaining from PMO. So diapers are out of the picture, for now at least. But I still feel they are the main reason this challenge is so difficult. I keep having dreams about them, and it’s like my brain tries to convince me that they’re not a sexual object. But well, from experience I just know that is very much the case.
     
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  5. I have the same fetish and have hated myself for it before as well. But the more I learn about fetishes, the more I understand that they are tied to some aspect of our childhood. So there is a psychological connection somehow that developed when we were younger. I, too, have always had an interest in diapers. Does this make me a bad person? Should I hate myself because of this? Is this something that I don’t understand about myself? Absolutely.

    Yes, diapers lead me down a sexual path that I don’t want, usually ending in MO.

    So what can be done? One thing that I’ve learned is that the more we dismiss the thoughts of the fetish, the weaker it becomes. It doesn’t completely go away, but it definitely can go dormant if we don’t entertain those thoughts. I don’t believe the fetish will ever completely disappear but I think we can manage it by not paying attention to it.

    Feel free to send me a message if you want to talk about it or if you have any other questions.
     
  6. Lightning Boy

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    Are fetishes puzzles to be solved, or are they things we can learn to work around?
    It's particularly difficult when a fetish or central theme occurs at some point in your developmental years.
    It's like an oak tree that has grown in your sexual identity.
    It's intertwined with emerging sexual development, and I guess it speaks to you in a way that generic porn material would not.
    Although the addiction / reward is principally the same, the core idea is identifiable, unique and specific.
    I do not share your particular fetish, but I have others, which I haven't practiced for years, but they're still there.

    Acceptance is a part of the process, but it doesn't have to be a biased acceptance.
    You don't have to judge yourself for it.
    Everybody is different, and everyone has different emotional locked doors, and secret hidden corridors somewhere in their psyche.
    They are just there. The same way people have different hair, eyes, skin, fingerprints etc.
    All fetishes are complex, and many tap into something much less identifiable than their aesthetic.
    I'm just riffing here, but perhaps being uncomfortable with your particular fetish it is part of the trigger. Shame, guilt, exposure etc.

    Maybe accepting that it's there, without judgement or shame, or any of the associated emotions could be a good way to begin to manage it more easily.
     
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  7. Well said!
     
  8. Joe1023

    Joe1023 Fapstronaut

    I would say that your best bet is to get into some CSAT counseling. I absolutely HATE the stereotype that so often comes with therapy because IT WORKS!! I'm living proof! Look up some CSAT therapists in your area to talk to.
     
  9. Longtime27

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    Shame & guilt will be a prison that can keep you trapped in your addiction / preoccupation.
    I joined Sex addicts anonymous after realising that it wasn't just a PMO addiction I was trying to overcome, but a fetishistic paraphilia too (not the same, but nevertheless related to items of clothing or footwear). I can fully appreciate your negative feelings towards yourself, and those feelings of alienation. You are not alone, and the truth is you're one of many who will have struggled with these feelings related to some fetish. It can twist us up, but be sure that you can talk openly here and most on this forum will try to help you overcome :)

    I can honestly say i'm in the best place i've ever been with it, and it is possible to re-wire, and let go of things that serve such little purpose for our healthy needs in life.

    Try practicing a 3-second rule to begin with if you find yourself consciously thinking about diapers. This can be reduced over time. Couple this with the mantra 'you have no power over me'. It has helped me a lot.

    I would also say that the longer you can consciously abstain and really try to let go of diapers, try to find tools to shift your focus, the easier it will become. Time is the healer, once we let go. All the best with it bro, and HMU on DM if you need to unpack
     
  10. GrittyRunning

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    What percentage of adults practice this "diaper wearing adult baby's"?
     
  11. I doubt any studies have been done. Probably a very small percentage of adults.
     
  12. I was fortunate to find a fantastic CSAT and our sessions were the beginning of me turning my life around. The only thing I would say is while I recommend finding a CSAT just know you might have to shop around to find a good one. Sadly, not all of them are helpful.
     
  13. Joe1023

    Joe1023 Fapstronaut

    Very true! They're like medications; some will work for you and not others, and vice versa, but it will take a little time to be sure either way. But when you find one that works, your life will change foe the better!!
     
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  14. Mangold

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    For the guys relating to this:
    I wonder, is this fetish one that is combined with more common form of attraction and sexual activities (I will elaborate what I mean by this) or a diaper wearing adult alone that is arousing to you (or rather the roleplay itself)?
    For example latex, leather, lingerie and all that turns me on when I see it on attractive women and my brain is wired to these "paraphernalia" and gets more aroused when such things are inolved in arousing sceneries, not because of the material itself but because I've seen so many porn where it is used. My brain wants to see attractive women undressing, stripping and having sex. So these are kinda porn-induced fetishes for me but it's not the "main dish", so to speak.
    But maybe this is not a "real fetish", I don't know.
     
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