On day 57, been edging increasingly for 5 days

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  1. Strickster

    Strickster New Fapstronaut

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    So, I guess by now my progress has pretty much vanished huh? I only have the O count left if what I read in other posts is correct. I wonder whether I should PMO already, but I fear the ejaculation might be too painful, some said edging is way worse than just PMOing and one should O in that case, but I also like the semen retention part of this and wouldn't want to give away my life energy, it's just that my P fantasies have gotten so intense now, I wish there was some safe release... I think I should restart my count, but keep the seed, but that's just so frustrating as well, I am basically changing my mind back and forth on Oing and be done with or keeping the seed, thanks for being here fellow nofappers
     
  2. MarinoBigFan1984

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    Edging is worse than O. To me edging is just toture. Might as well just release and reset the counter. Try to release minus porn.
     
  3. NamaClature14

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    Please take it from me. I led myself in circles for months pretending edging was better than pmo, or that my streak wasn't really broken. I have done this countless times and it was way worse.
    So let's start out with the truth. Your not on Day 57 any longer, your at Day 0 but dont want to admit it yet and each day you edge you just keep staying at 0. If you PMO now that is not gonna save you or make you feel better & your gonna lose that retention energy on top of it. What you need is one solid day where you work out. Go for a run or do yoga or workout, but exhaust yourself for 1 day and then bite the bullet and reset your counter. That will be motivation that you didnt fully give in but also your back at 0.
    It's better than fully giving into PMO but only if you stop edging right now.

    Whether you know it or not your actually doing what alot of common drug addicts will do. They will abstain from their drug of choice for a few weeks maybe a month or so and then cave into the drug so they can get that ultra high that they use to get when they first started. This reinforces the connection to actually be stronger than it was before. Same thing with edging and porn, right now your reinforcing your brain to anticipate porn use and remain at sustained levels of sexual arousal for hours and days on end. This is worse than a short PMO session if continued for multiple days. You gotta stop it right now. Half measures do twice the damage.
     
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  4. Strickster

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    Sorry guys, I not only relapsed yesterday, but also today :C Hopefully now I can up my game, because this was my longest streak and I learned that edging is not only painful but also such a deceiving thing, it builds this HUGE idea which stems from just sensitivity to touch, I guess that's why other guys find out that HUGS are so much better than going all the way through to climax, changing the end of the act. I also learned about my personal anatomy and my reactions to such an experience.
     
  5. pavx92

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    I dont know man i think orgasm is the biggest problem and next is masturbation and third is porn. i mean we see pornographic images whether we like to or not just by living in the world. Not orgasming is definitely rewiring your brain
     
  6. Thistimeitsfinal

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    Very well said!
     
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  8. Thistimeitsfinal

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    I tried the edging thing too way back and we are just kidding ourselves, we are simply going through all the emotions bar the final O, so the addiction remains. Going full monk mode now and hoping this will set me straight!
     
  9. CS1

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    What does Edging mean here ? I am confusing
     
  10. Jorics

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    when you watch porn without masturbating or masturbation without orgasm
     
  11. bfdet

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    For help with terms that may be unfamiliar, have a look at The Glossary. A link is on the top of this page.




    One day at a time is how we all succeed.
     
  12. bfdet

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    Hi guys !

    Yep, edging is perhaps the WORST thing you can do to yourself. Edging trains you both mentally and physically to expect prolonged periods of intense stimulation. The result is you body and mind no longer responds to appropriate stimulation. Frequently, DE or ED or both occur when you attempt conventional PIV as your body and mind aren't receiving the intensity or duration of stimulation it now requires to reach O.

    Simple message: DO NOT EDGE !
     
  13. MerseyPhoenix

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    My biggest problem, and I didn't realise it!
     
  14. bfdet

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    Hi 'Phoenix !

    Well now you know. So what are you going to do about it ? I think you KNOW the right answer ... So another question: How will you avoid / deal the urges ?

    You can do this. It really does work. Healing takes time, so don't think you can undo all the negative effects overnight; it simply won't happen. But given time, doing an honest effort reboot plan, healing WILL happen.

    One day at a time is how we all succeed.
     
  15. Clean Willy

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    It is an education interacting on these forums. :)
     
  16. Simonthepieman

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    Has anyone actually tried watching porn without masturbating? The thought had never even occurred to me - I'm not saying that I think it's a good thought, but interesting that it I hadn't thought of it. Maybe it would seem a bit pointless...
     
  17. JoeinMD

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    It never seems to quite work out, wouldn't you think?
     
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  18. JoeinMD

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    Don't you think, though that edging is like torture (but pleasurable too) even as O is pleasurable (but hurts a bit, too), somewhat obvious by the brace and strain on one's face?
     
  19. Simonthepieman

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    Yes, now I think of it, I'm quite sure it wouldn't turn out well...LOL!
     
  20. bfdet

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    hi 'pieman, joeinmd, and others !

    Watching P is never a good idea. PMO is never a good idea. P and PMO simply are not good ideas: not before, not now, not in the future, not ever. This needs to become a core belief for a successful journey to healing.

    How will you make this a key component of your healing plans ?

    One day at a time is how we all succeed.
     

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