No More PM for a Healthy Sexual Life

3 weeks ! Thats insane xylton. I can guarantee you can do more in your future attempts. You have it in you bro . Best of luck for your future baby

 

Hi @xylton ! Welcome to nofap. I have to work a program every single day. I could be doing PMO for 6-8 hours a day so sometimes I need to put a lot of time into working my program. If I distract myself too much from my program, even with other hobbies that aren't related to sexual acting out, I could relapse pretty easily. I am feeling the urges now, very strongly! I know its not what I really want. I need to do my own will, not the will of PMO. My own will is just to stay clean no matter what.

 

Hi xylton, this is my first post too, I just registered on NoFap a few days ago. Finally I found someone in PM mode. I am in a relationship too and I am pretty sure I have PIED. I masturbated almost every other day looking at porn for 30 mins to 1.5 hours. I had to reset once already. I think it helps if I write down here what happens.. I don't want to write about resets or relapses...

 

Hi all,

Thanks for writing down your stories. Xylton: exactly the same story here. The worst of all the bad things caused by PMO is the fact that she thought I was not attracted to her any more. I felt really really sorry for her. I told her repeatedly that this wasn't the case so she was (understandably) pushing for an explanation really hard. Finally I admitted excessively watching porn. At first it made things even worse, she told me she felt like she was betrayed and questioned why I didn't tell her about my addiction problems before. All I could say was that I was ashamed of it and I truly believe that this was the case. In hindsight I regret not telling her about my PMO and PIED before. She is very understanding and supportive and I have a better self esteem now. Unfortunately there isn't a warning sign on P sites that P is addictive like it's on tobacco boxes.. So I think it's not your fault entirely that you are addicted, but it's your fault if you don't try to fight against it. Xylon you should consider telling your wife in case you couldn't fight it on your own. Of course the best scenario is that you can and you can forget all about PIED and never need to tell it. I wish you this outcome!

Yesterday we were cuddling and kissing but I didn't feel any sexual arousal. It was an incredibly pleasant feeling but the last thing I wanted to do was having sex. I am 7 days in so I can't tell whether it's still the effect of PMO or is it flatlining? Did you experience anything similar 'PMO addict'? It was scary as hell... It was like I became asexual. Please let me know.

 

Hi. Welcome to forum!

Make sure you crate a personal journal thread in Reboot Logs section and blog there on a regular basis. As well as just generally be active participant in various forum discussions. I recommend this to everybody new here because it's the major thing that helped me when I was first starting. Just lurking on forums, reading and learning is great. But it usually is so much more powerful to engage. It helps to keep us motivated and accountable when we are active part of community. And keeps this in front of our minds so we don't forget about importance of it and slip away in our old habits. Sharing is also therapeutic. This is a major reason why AA meetings work so good. But that was developed before internet era. These days we can get most of the same benefits online through communities like this. So don't underestimate the power of active participation.

I would also like to suggest you to look into mindfulness meditation. It has helped me personally tremendously to learn how to deal with urges. It takes a while to get good at it and notice results, so you need to be consistent with it, but once you do it's very powerful. It has been used by sages for thousands of years to deal with various issues of the mind. And in recent decades the science is also catching up to what ancient sages have know for centuries. Meditation these days are widely used as very effective tool by psychologists for treating addiction and by neurologists for supporting recovery of the brain. It is a great exercise for the brain the same way as jogging is great exercise for the body. Check out this Ted talk, it gives a good idea of what's it about when it comes to philosophy. As far as practical side of it there is this awesome smartphone app called Headspace for guided meditations to get you started.

Wish you lot's of strength and success in your reboot journey!