No friends, no girlfriend, miserable job

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by Ji83j, Mar 30, 2019.

  1. Cornixico

    Cornixico Fapstronaut

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    I just saw this thread and I know it was posted a couple of weeks back but it struck a chord with me. I have similar problems to you, no gf and not really any friends. I guess something you can do about it is join some clubs or do some volunteering (it’s what I’m doing to get myself out there). Volunteering will make you feel better plus you’ll get to meet lots of new people maybe even some friends. Also try checking out meetup.com which is a site that advertises groups for all sorts of hobbies and activities e.g running, cooking, yoga etc. Really that site has so many opportunities to meet people in a fun way. Especially if you live in a big city but even if you don’t you can find a lot groups in other places. Im planning to join a Spanish learners group. There really is world of opportunity out there. You’ve just got to get out of your comfort zone. Also don’t let anyone make you feel bad for doing stuff on your own. I’ve gone to the cinema many a time on my own, I actually really like it, also museums and art galleries are great solo activities. I hope this helps, and if your ever feel down and want to chat feel free to send me a message. Good luck and just keep on keeping on!

    Here’s that website again
    meetup.com

    They also have an app too.
     
  2. J92

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    I'm in the same boat as you, albeit I have a job I enjoy. Loneliness used to bother me, and still does from time to time but Ive largely overcome it because I've stopped romanticizing the idea of a life I don't have. I've also stopped romanticizing the lives of others.

    Pay closer attention to other people and you'll see that almost everyone, friends or no friends, girlfriend or no girlfriend, is unhappy, anxious, aimless, insecure, restless. What most people value in friendship/companionship is the distraction it offers from their own problems, their own minds. Most people are distracted, not truly happy.

    When you see this, your anxiety about being alone will diminish. It is a great source of confidence to know that the only person you need to be happy is yourself.

    Loneliness is not the result of being alone, but rather the result of being bad company to yourself.
     
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  4. Nighthawk72

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    This is true.
     
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    I used to be scared of things. I was scared. But also corrupted by PMO. It's corruption was so bad, that I felt like I was useless to everyone around me. Now, I have joined NoFap. And now, I feel good. But sometimes I get urges to do porn. I need to end my addiction before it's too late.
     
  6. Sunny321

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    Do not despair. Everything temporarily and in the future will improve. The main thing is to believe in it with all your heart.
     

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