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Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by xerxies, Jun 14, 2018.

  1. xerxies

    xerxies Fapstronaut

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    Hey everyone.

    I am a 23 year old male and I have been viewing pornography for the past 12 years. I am to the point where the vanilla porn just isn't exciting or arousing anymore, and that scares me.

    I have been raised a Christian and taught that porn is bad all my life. It is not until recently that I realize just how damaging it can be. I have begun to start thinking about and daydreaming about porn and sex when I am supposed to be studying, working, and even when I am trying to relax and have fun. I have also had a few women tell me they would not allow a relationship with me if I continue to look at porn.

    I have decided it is time to stop. I have attempted to stop on my own in the past, but efforts have been halfhearted and I never felt very supported. Today is day 4 for me without PMO and I am excited to continue to move forward.
     
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  2. Nadamotain

    Nadamotain Fapstronaut

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    4 days is awesome. Keep the forward momentum!
     
  3. The Serpent of Fire

    The Serpent of Fire Fapstronaut

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    Hi. Welcome to forum!

    Make sure you create a personal journal thread in Reboot Logs section and blog there on a regular basis. As well as just generally be active participant in various forum discussions. I recommend this to everybody new here because it's the major thing that helped me when I was first starting. Just lurking on forums, reading and learning is great. But it usually is so much more powerful to engage. It helps to keep us motivated and accountable when we are active part of community. And keeps this in front of our minds so we don't forget about importance of it and slip away in our old habits. Sharing is also therapeutic. This is a major reason why AA meetings work so good. But that was developed before internet era. These days we can get most of the same benefits online through communities like this. So don't underestimate the power of active participation.

    I would also like to suggest you to look into mindfulness meditation. It has helped me personally tremendously to learn how to deal with urges and triggers. It takes a while to get good at it and notice results, so you need to be consistent with it, but once you do it's very powerful. It has been used by sages for thousands of years to deal with various issues of the mind. And in recent decades the science is also catching up to what ancient sages have know for centuries. Meditation these days are widely used as very effective tool by psychologists for treating addiction and by neurologists for supporting recovery of the brain. It is a great exercise for the brain the same way as jogging is great exercise for the body. Check out this Ted talk, it gives a good idea of what's it about when it comes to philosophy. As far as practical side of it there is this awesome smartphone app called Headspace for guided meditations to get you started.

    Wish you lot's of strength and success in your reboot journey!
     

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