Mental Health and PMO

Hey Everyone,

Just relapsed.Feeling fucked up.Sleepy and trying to gain motivation. So I have come to a conclusion and I will share it with you guys.

Number of relapses i have had in these 15 days were more than that I had previous month. Thats really really poor. But why ? Why always relate bad things happening to us with PMO.(or particularly i will say Relapse ...). So what caused me to have so many relapses this month ? I didnt gave up neither i believe in PMO. There must be a reason for this. I began thinking ...... And came to a conclusion.

I have marked the important points in bold.

Relapses are directly related to :-

1) Mental Health
2) Optimism
3) Stress and depression

Often we relate the problems in life due to PMO and we forget that these problems might be causing us to PMO more.

OPTIMISM

So .... I would tell some of my experiences of NO PMO ( which i started early about an year ago ). I began to stop fapping an year ago. But it wasn't just PMO that i quit. I decided to improve my life. It was just one thing "IMPROVE". I had to improve in studies , social behaviour , and in my personality. But these things came from within. And i saw results. I got better. So this was not because of just No PMO but because of being OPTIMIST. Yup i even got GF this time. Every morning i felt great. I had really good sleep.

Optimism will improve your life more than anything else. Those who whine about having no results lack this . (Even if placebo works there is no harm in using it).

So what we all must keep in mind.

1) I will use every oportunity in my life.
2) Every second i am getting better.
3) Feel the failures and feel the progress. No whining.
4) Keep calm if you cant do these.

Relating to PMO :- I didnt watched P these months. Nope I never forced myself to keep away I just didnt had any urges to watch. MO was reduced from once a day to once a week.

If you feel that you cant always keep thinking these things and feel that its bullshit. Dont worry i have been there too. But who am I? No one. But havent you heard people telling about being passionate? Yup these thoughts makes us passionate to improve our life.

STRESS AND DEPRESSION

This is your biggest enemy. So another experience....
Slowly my focus reduced. I still was getting better but the thought of procrastinating and lowered focus made things worse. We since childhood are told that "We get what we sow". This is where the problem started. I had gf and i began relating that quote with my relationship. This small thought caused me to get stressed. Then i got ill sometimes. Being ill or having gf didnt do that bad as what the mere thought of paying for these things in other aspects off my life did. I no longer felt improvement ( Yup when you improve you really feel it each day ).

Relating to PMO :- I slowly began relapsing. I didnt realised it that time. :/ too bad. First effect of depression is on sleep. No longer happy feeling each day .PMO frequency once in three days.

Previous month I improved. once in four days. But then again I had a very bad experience that cause me to fall into depression. And I can clearly see that my relapse frequency have increase. I PMOed yesterday ... today twice in a row ... (More relapses as compared to last month.)


What are your thoughts on this topic? Replies and questions are appreciated.