Lost interest in chasing girls

I do. I’ve been in hard mode minus a few relapse days and my desire for women period is almost gone.

 

My desire for the stuck-up, dizzy, attention-seeking, social-media saturated 'hotties' has gone. Now for a girl woman of quality on the other hand......

 

sometimes i observed such things. i completely lost interest in girls. on intellectual mind, i know they r hot, i should talk to them. but mind mood things doesnot allow to do so.

 

I’m ambivalent on how I feel about it right now.

 

I've never asked a girl out on a date before despite having a relationship for 5 years when i was younger (she asked me out) Now i'm not sure if i want a relationship or not, i don't even know how to chat up women, I can't imagine they would be interested in me so I just tend to ignore them these days unless i have to talk to them. I'm in this strange place at the moment where I would like to know what it feels like to go out on a date with someone but at the same time it fills me with dread. I honestly don't believe women see me as 'boyfriend material' was always the one who could never get out of the 'friend zone' and when i tried to approach girls when I was younger, i was brushed away like an unwelcome irritant 'what's this freak doing trying to talk to me' i wonder if my poor experience with girls growing up had anything to do with me getting so engrossed in porn or whether it was the porn that made me so difficult and socially awkward around girls. There is someone for everybody apparrently but i can't help thinking this mystical woman is on the other side of the planet (Or maybe on a different planet!)

 

You are going to let one girls comment decide your dating life. We all get rejected and deal with nasty women.

 

So go look. While you're there, immerse yourself in their cultures and friendships with the people you find. Even if you don't end up with your "mystical woman" you're going to change yourself and how you see the world for the rest of your life.

Talk about playing hard to get.

 

Hi there,
I want to say something from my personal experiences, but to start with there is no such thing as friend zone.
Learn to be friends with women, cherish and respect the friendships. You can learn a lot about yourself and people through friendships with the other sex. You may not be able to find the “mystical woman” because you may not know what is defined in that idea, it wasn’t for me in my younger years.
Be friends first with women, then date other women and some you will continue to be friends after you date and some not. Take the pressure off yourself and just focus on the friendship. From there you may begin to form the notion and recognize what you want out of a relationship.
Your future wife should be your best friend and that usually doesn’t happen until you stop looking at women as potential mate (friend zone) but just respectfully being their friend first with nothing to gain but the friendship with someone you find amazing and interesting.
I quickly figured out at young age what I didn’t want in relationships, it took an amazing friendship with a man that I was t in love with, a respectful love to realize what I did want in a romantic relationship. I wanted that level of friendship, honesty, respect and trust from my future partner in crime. I never wanted to Loose that friendship with my friend by going further with him
romantically so we agreed to never take it past that. It was what I learned about myself in that friendship that helped me see and know what I could have and wanted in my husband, so I committed to him. My husband and I built our relationship on being friends first and foremost. he is my best friend and the deep love I feel for him is so amazing and real. I truly believe that’s why we always seem to come through the life challenges together. In the hardest of times we focus on being best friends first even if we forget how to be lovers for a time.
I hope I didn’t overstep in this thread.

 

It definitely isn't. Far better for your mind to connect with women first to discover who is on your wavelength, than to be shoved along by the little guy lusting after some p*ssy.

It also promises more intense, meaningful sex down the road.

It would only ever become a problem if you hooked up with a girl you'd grown attached to and things down there didn't work. But that is a completely separate issue, and not relevant in your case.

 

It's a good thing. It means your Will is becoming stronger, which is much better than if you were to be the slave of your passions and sexual appetites. Your power to make good choices is becoming stronger. Congrats!

 

It has always worked weird for me. I had a lot of such periods in my life, when I had no interest in "chasing" girls. But always when I started acting(calling them out, being more sexual during the dates), the interest returned. So I guess "appetite comes with eating"

 

I can relate I've never been on a date or even in a relationship and like you said I think my porn use made me socially awkward in front of women especially after college the thing that made it worse is everybody especially girls I knew would always ask why are you single your so good looking but realizing it now it was much deeper than that back then I thought I had to live up to some standard back in college put so much pressure on myself to hookup with girls because that's what everybody was doing but now at 28 I realize ther are much more important things I'm just trying different things and trying to find out my definite career path stopping pmo has made actively seek out who I am I being sexually inexperienced and not having casual sex isn't something I every really wanted to do but I do want to share my life with a women who I can love for more than just her body someone who genuinely gives a damn about my wellbeing and challenges me to the best man I can possibly