Losing virginity in my early 30s, how to do it?

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by LilD, Jun 15, 2018.

  1. Jason_Tesla_19

    Jason_Tesla_19 Fapstronaut

    Now I see why you think she might not be back, as she was keeping her distance. She might have just been interested in taking your virginity.
     
  2. LilD

    LilD Fapstronaut

    Lol, if that was the case, she would at least wait until I'm able to get an erection properly.
     
  3. tweeby

    tweeby Banned

    LOL NOOooooooo. Girls do NOT wait to take a guy's virginity. This is NOT something that interests girls, perhaps this is something that might interest guys, but girls want a guy who knows how to take action and KNOWS what he is doing.
     
  4. Jason_Tesla_19

    Jason_Tesla_19 Fapstronaut

    Perhaps in general for most women. I've read of some women actually enjoying "corrupting the innocent"!
     
  5. tweeby

    tweeby Banned

    LilD you're over analysing the signs. Perhaps you might have a point on a few things, but here's what I think has gone on.

    This girl has given a lot of chances, way more than I'd expect your average girl to give. That tells me all I need to know in regards to how much she likes you.

    Here's the problem, you don't get the 'We're breaking up I never loved you' speech after things have gone well. Truth is she was probably disappointed after your 'sexual activity' together. Hey that's not such a big thing, but if you've never gone down on a girl before, it probably wasn't the best experience for her. Truth is you don't know until you've got practice. She was probably disappointed you didn't 'FUCK' her hence why she slept away from you.

    Let me tell you girls will know when it is about to 'get down' they will shave downstairs and get themselves all prim and proper.

    She will also be feeling kinda rejected. I know this is going to come as a big surprise, but yes she will be wondering if she wasn't HOT enough for you to have sex with her!

    Here's what I think you're doing wrong, I think you're talking about your problems wayyyy too much with this girl and it's getting into her head. She's wondering if your porn addiction problems extend beyond to what you're saying. She's wondering this because she HAS talked about your problems with all her best friends, and they're also telling her, this guy sounds a bit iffy.

    But all this doesn't matter so much, it's how you react.

    My question to you is, 'What do you want?'
     
  6. tweeby

    tweeby Banned

    Rest assured there is no girl on the planet who fantasises about taking the V-card of a guy who needs to be told what to do and where to put it. This is why women have soooo many fantasises about being with their teacher, or an older guy, or a guy who treats them like a daddy's girl.
     
  7. tweeby

    tweeby Banned

    Additionally, girls don't offer pity dates or pity fucks. Just in case anyone else was wondering!
     
  8. LilD

    LilD Fapstronaut

    @tweeby, people are different. I met several women who disprove many of the things you've just said. You're overgeneralizing.

    My ex-GF simply didn't care that much if I was a virgin or not. The only thing about my virginity she cared about was how to handle our first sex properly, and she did a good job.
    She didn't care that much about my addiction either, and I didn't bother her too much with details and/or complaints. I simply informed her about my problem and how it could affect our relationships. She wasn't bothered at all. She is an addict herself with a long recovery experience, and she knows the drill pretty well, and because of that, it was really easy to explain everything to her.
     
  9. RedeemedIowan

    RedeemedIowan Fapstronaut

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    @LilD
    Lol @ everyone trying to read into this situation. I trust what you think, not people who’ve never met her.

    Breakups always suck. Learn from it, find some good music to put it behind you with. I remember getting dumped and listening to ‘bye baby’ by nas, ‘surviving the times’ by nas, and ‘lost one’ by lauryn hill.. but that’s just me
     
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  10. LilD

    LilD Fapstronaut

    So, I went to TInder. Got 1 match, now it says, "nobody left to show," or something. With that one girl, we arranged a date, but I don't want to go. I already don't like her.

    But what I want to say, I feel like shit because of that. I always had a deep fear of rejection, my parents never told me they love me. My ex GF left me after just two months. And now I got no matches on Tinder. It really feels like women I find attractive don't like me back. I regret I tried it.
     
  11. RedeemedIowan

    RedeemedIowan Fapstronaut

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    Jumping into Tinder is understandable.. been there done that. Whatcha trying to accomplish on it?

    You truly need to love yourself before someone else can.. do you think you love yourself? How would quitting PMO help you love yourself?
     
  12. LilD

    LilD Fapstronaut

    New GF, or at least new friends. The more I talk to people, the better I feel, so even if I won't get anything out of it, I still win.

    I try hard.

    It would not. I quit PMO because I love myself, not the other way around. It would just make my life more tolerable.
     
  13. RedeemedIowan

    RedeemedIowan Fapstronaut

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    I totally get the tinder thing. I used it to stay distracted too. If PMO is causing your life to be miserable than attack it. There are 100 ways to go to war with porn and i would use every single one if you want to win that battle. I had to keep adding firepower to my arsenal to win: accountability partners, books on sexual integrity, groups, devotional time to God, working out, a healthy relationship, canceling my internet, selling my computer, joining a 12 step, joining nofap.com.. every time I failed and pmo’d I would add my fuel to my fire to quit
     

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