Let's Discuss Edging

I have never been successful at this! The inevitable seems to happen.

 

Edging fueled my masturbation problems. Was terrible at edging but did it anyways. What’s the point of doing it, idk, but I’ve done it anyways.

 

I haven’t done it in like 3 years…but it kinda enhanced my Death Grip and hurt overall stimulation. Wasted a lot of time. Made me lazier too. Didn’t do it like addictive- level frequently but there was a point during the pandemic when I did 3-5 times a week for over 30 mins at a time, if I remember well.

 

Edging is worst than MO because you are flooding your brain with an unnatural amount of dopamine.

I literally don't have motivation to work anymore because my brain just wants that edging rush.

I checked my blood work and prolactin is fine.

But I just cant focus and I have serious withdrawal symptoms.

Am in the process of healing/rewiring my brain.

If you are reading this, take it seriously! Don't fk around with edging as it will destroy your normal brain function and take months (even a year) to fix.

 

Once your brains reward centers are hijacked, by definition you are "addicted".

So "any" type of stimulation will trigger you.

This is why quitting cold turkey is so important.

When your brain is trying to convince you that "Oh this is okay", thats the addiction trying to get its fix.

 

My withdrawal symptoms are:

Cravings
Headaches
Body aches

 

edging is the worst.
crazy bad headaches, dehydration, hunger (and then food binging). Ive also hurt my leg / ankle / hand / wrist many times cuz I get completely detached from my body.
lots of fatigue, brain fog (bigtime), missed appts and calls, you name it
its PMO slavery in its purest form, hell on earth.

 

Yeah, edging seems so much more damaging than M or O to me. I mean, for hours at a time, you are slowly rewiring your brain to want pixels over a real, existing human. You are developing techniques to tweak the flow of a chemical to just the right levels to maximize the "enjoyment" of every session. I can ruin my brain this way for half an afternoon, then spend 20 seconds "finishing."

Compare that with being a healthy male where you might occasionally have a build-up of sexual energy and go into the bathroom for a couple of minutes to address the need. Then you move on with your life. The experience is so minimal in terms of time, energy, physical desensitization, emotional make-believe, rewiring, etc., that there is no long-term damage.

Edging is SO much worse, IMHO. And it's why my sobriety counter is based not on how long I've gone since PMO, but since I last edged. I guarantee that if I stop edging first, stopping unhealthy PMO will come naturally.

 

This is debatable.

Are you addicted or have you thought your brain to buffer / suppress your negative emotions with porn? If you are truly addicted, you have a bigger problem than if the latter is the case. Go one time to a rehabcenter with "real" addicted people (you know what I talk about). My proposition is that far out the majority of the people here is not actually addicted but buffers their negative emotions with porn, like the pavlov's dogs. Uhum...that sounds a bit strange . I mean it's an analogy, pavlov trained the dogs to salivate at the ring of the bell, just as we trained our brains to watch porn to buffer negative emotions. The cool thing about that experiment was that pavlov also trained the dogs not to want the food anymore. And so you can train you brain not to want porn anymore. So addiction or bad habit? It's for you to decide. But I will call my problem a bad habit, because the chances of recovery are much greater than. If one is really addicted, which means one can not hold a somewhat normal life, then therapy is required. If it is a bad habit dependently how serious it is you need a good coach or you can learn your way out of it yourself.

 

Wow, such a great way you said this. I make a mental note of it, that next time I find myself in a situation that it is clearly I am going to edge, instead just go to the bathroom and finish it of. After it there is no point anymore in edging. So it's the way best of 2 bad things.

 

I've actually thought about this quite a bit: The idea of just finishing as quickly as possible. But I decided that it wasn't a solution for me.

1. My brain won't allow me to do that. It's used to getting a LOT of dopamine over a prolonged edging session and it knows that it won't get much if I just try to reach orgasm as quickly as possible. It forces me to take my time. So for me, turning off the spigot altogether is the best approach.

2. For me, edging means that I am objectifying women. I'm imagining them and/or myself engaged in sexual activity that they would never participate in and I don't like doing that. It's not the type of person I am at heart, but it is something the addiction causes me to do. When I am at my cleanest, my view of women is also at its healthiest. I recognize those instances when I treat women as the beautiful creatures they are and want to guarantee that I always do that.

3. I want to break the cycle of having to make up porn in my bed to get off with my girlfriend. I should be there with her 100% in body, mind and soul. If I'm not, then I'm just using her. I need to stop masturbating to porn (viewed or imagined) and start rewiring myself to be attracted to what nature intended that I really be turned on by.

 

My feeling is that P actors have been physically desensitized over time. They can last forever because it doesn't feel that great (if even good) anymore. Who knows how a video is edited other than to say that they are all made to look like star performers. For all we know, they could be pulling out and just touching themselves with their eyes closed for ten minutes while everyone waits for the money shot because they are messed up as we are.

I have never personally compared myself to an actor (size- or performance-wise). I think I understand what makes a woman feel good and am okay with doing my best with what I was given. And I'm not afraid to ask her what she likes as well. After all, I'm there to serve her.

Porn is fake. Every part of it.