Just a theory

Agreed. We went weeks at a time durimg the height of PMO (to which I was naively oblivious) and, during a medical crisis, we went for a few months, but barring something medical, I couldn't handle 2 times in 2 years.

 

It was unbearable. I was honestly considering an affair to get my needs met. I KNEW it was porn use and I would email and text him info, but he would deny it obsessively. We went on vacations and I always booked a suite so we could be intimate, but it just never happened. We had a lot of work stress (he was gone 3- 9 weeks at a time) and I told him repeatedly that he felt more like a room mate than a husband. In retrospect I can not believe it went on that long. I think I was dealing with so much from solo parenting all the time, and I became really resentful to him for not showing me any affection, his criticizing me, and his anger. In retrospect it was crazy.