Greetings! Just signed up and wanted to introduce myself. I addict easily to bad habits and porn is one them (other is gaming & smoking). It has always be my problem. It got worse when I was about 16, now I am 26 years old. I used to went to anonymys sex addicts gatherings in here untill it was ended in here. Like many of you, I discovered porn and I got deeper and deeper to get satisfied. Currently I mainly watch sissy/cuckolding/chastity porn and everytine after orgasm I swear that I am never going to watch it again. Plus I feel super depressed and disgusted by that. I used to lie myself that I was into that shit because I am CEO of two companies and I need balance etc BS. Today I reawake that I had a huge problem. I had sex in the morning with my girlfriend and again in the afternoon before she went to work. After that I went my own home and first think was to look some porn in internet and after couple hours later I had to watch again. But back to my realisation. I started to think how that porn addict affect my life and I get shocking conclusion (these notes is mostly for myself): - It affect hugely in our (me & my gf) sex life, I have had problem to be fully erect and have cum only twice with her, luckily she is easy cummer lol (we started to date about month ago). - I started gym in january and now I am noticing how I start to reasoning for myself why I dont have time to gym. - In work I dont have same passion and drive. - I dont have discipline to follow my vision (this is most killing part for me). - Overall energy level is way lower. - I quit theoretical studies regarding my hobby (sailing). - I really effect my sleep habits, currently I sleep about 4-5 hours per day. - Less confident by myself. + One minute really good feeling. After that I realised that if keep doing that fabbing I am not going to achieve in the long term what I really want. And these one minute pleasure is not really pleasure but it is going to destroy me and who I really am. I appreciate if you kept reading this far.
Hey @Fearless_Awesome_in_you , I'm nobody special on here. Just a regular user saying, "welcome". There is so much support on this forum, the profiles and the various groups. It works if you work it. I don't offer advise. I offer only my ESH (experience, strength and hope). My ESH is that NoFap is about action and that meant work for me. It is not about "not doing something", for me, it is about working my program. Work it? Oh yeah. There's work to be done, that's what's worked for me. Two things I've found necessary. 1. I had to Learn the NoFap Program. 2. Getting involved with the community on here was vital to help my recovery. Learn the NoFap Program The resources listed on the "New Users: List of Rebooting Resources" helped me find my way around the reasons behind the program and the terms used. They are: Download the free Getting Started guide. Set up a PMO-Counter Badge. More info here! Basic introduction to the science of porn addiction! Basic information about rebooting and how our challenges can help you recover from PMO. This is the most important page to read. If you only can read one page, read this one. About NoFap. Watch this video - it is an epic intro resource if you want to get particular details about porn addiction and how it changes how your brain works. This is a good light-weight video about porn addiction. Read through the journal sections and see what other rebooters have experienced. It is good to know what to expect, otherwise the "chaser effect", "the surge", or the "flatline" might throw you off. If you come across vocabulary that you can't understand, check out our rebooting glossary of terms. GET ACCOUNTABLE FOR YOUR HABITS! Sign up for a peer accountability partner. Otherwise if you want more professional-hosted solutions, check out NoFap Premium or Reboot Camp. If you can afford to invest in yourself, these are great options. You can find this same list on the top of the forum you posted this message on at - the "New to NoFap" forum. Get Involved with the Community The community has been my lifeline. I've found journals I love, people who are very supportive and a place where I could get to work helping in a small way others. Remember, I'm just a normal user with no magic powers. But, I can: Read Journals, and comment when I have ESH Find people I admire and stay in touch via their profiles Pick a forum and make sure every post gets and answer. I can't answer them all, but that's good - different opinions make for a better group. Post in my journal (I could be better at it - but I do milestone posts at least) To make a journal go to the section listed by age and start one. Keep all your journal posts in one thread. But, for random thoughts, you can create a new thread. Looking forward to seeing you around on the forums, --> L PS – I Think of pmo like a wolf. If I Stay near the center of the group with the winners the wolf has a more difficult time finding me. But, stray near the edges of the community by not working my program and the wolf can pick me off.
One of the ways I got involved with the fellowship was by reading some really great journals. Reading other's stories with their victories and even defeats is a big part of my program. I've included journals from all age groups, spiritual members, religious members, secular members, male and female. You should find journals that help. If not, look around, there are hundreds of others from which to choose. When I say "it works if you work it", reading journals is part of that work. Once you open a journal, click "Watch Thread" in the upper right of the page to get alerts when new posts are made. Here are just a few: @LeoJohn - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/159500/ --- @Iron Patience - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/155794/ --- @ludwig525 - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/155658/ --- @PatrickR - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/139570/ --- @GeeWhizz - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/152127/ --- @Sunshadow - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/75108/ --- @Tomoya Okazaki - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/143534/ --- @Fortitudo - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/144228/ --- @Dragonnlife - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/136148/ --- @weddingnails - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/155372/ --- There are many more, and you can discover them on your own. But, these are great places to start. This is a work in progress. So, if a journal has changed or is no longer active, look around there are some amazing journals on here. --> L --- PS - Starting a journal also helped me a great deal. The journals are listed by age groups on the forum start page. Most members run one journal only. That way both the member and others can go back and look at their journey at a later time. Hope to read your journal soon. Also, in your personal details you can put a link to your journal. Then, appears under your avatar. -
For me NoFap is 1/2 program & 1/2 fellowship. Click on these people and post a "hello" on their profiles. I've found that the bricks that hold this community together are cemented with the support of the members of the fellowship. @romlel @LeoJohn @Gray Wolf @StarLightReboot @Chriss27 @ludwig525 @hoping_cannon @DavidGibson @SteelshoT @Jewels @reystronaut @2525 @weddingnails @PatrickR Look at with whom they exchange messages and you will find more profiles. So, if you would have found more profiles yourself, why suggest these particular ones as a start? Those relationships started with just saying hello. So, my ESH is that saying hello has kept the fellowship alive for myself. Looking forward to your success and in seeing you say hello on these profiles, --> L
First I wanna say thanks to you @DoubleBurgerWithCheese. I will read your posts again. I havent been for while in this site and my life has not changed that much still struggling same problems. Plus I realised that to me is it really hard to talk about my feelings and I lack of some empathy skills (I have some autism traits). I broke up my girlfriend month ago and actully I never loved her. I just lied her about my feelings. Currently I have seeing one girl about ten times and we have sex in last five and now she wants to know where we are going, are we just friends with benefits which is fine according to her (I dont believe it though) or do I want more. I said that I am looking relationship and I think she has that potential even though I have no feelings for her in longer term (or I am just afraid to admit that myself). I also dated another girl at the same time but she was too easy so I lost interesting in her. I am feeling like I am horrible monster to do that above. Like I have some dr.jekyll and hyde inside me. In sex I have same problems that my previous relationship, I have trouble even get hard but somehow I have found easy cummers lol. According to her she usually come around 4 times when we have sex. But the problem is that she is insisting me to come as well and she is not quitting before I come. And that is where fapping comes to daylight because I might have fap couple times before I see her and after that to me is it really hard to cum. Currently just fap couple times got depressed for myself and then I luckily remember this site. For now I know that I have to keep visiting here everytime I want to wank. Otherwise that habit going to ruin my life.
Didn’t relelapse today. Btw. I am going to post here just notes to myself as a journal. If it fits somewhere please move it.
Just jerked off twice and after that there was huge amount that guilt feeling again. Now I have to go sleep but just wanted to log in and remind myself what is really important and what is not.
