Is it normal to get boners all the time?

Funny shit.

I guess it will stop when your body realizes seeing a hot chick does not necessarily lead to doing her. Just deal with it until then.

 

Dude, you are a man for fuck sakes? Why do NoFap if you dont want sex or boners?
I mean shit... instead of fighting the boners away, learn to transform that energy of just get fucking laid.

Im sick of hearing all the guys here complain about getting random boners, if you dont want them, go back to watching porn daily. Whats the point of NoFap if you're not gonna get laid?

Id kill to get random boners, but im not there yet, im still addicted but working on stopping

 

Interesting idea Joe. So instead of hiding it, adjust your junk and push it out there, hands behind your neck and wink at whoever caused it. Do that 100 times and tell the best stories here.
Definitely my advice.

Alternatively you could also use your mind and focus on something else to get rid of it.

 

@averagejoe
There are a lot of people doing NoFap for other reasons than "getting laid." Some of us, myself included do not believe in sex before marriage. That being said, I would agree that it is a sign of HEALTH to get random boners.

@the original poster

Try exercise. I have a game for the Wii called "EA SPORTS 2" that gives you a good workout. Also when strong urges come cold showers work wonders. I think also your body could be getting some balance. Porn tends to teach you to objectify women and not see them as people. As the earlier poster said, just SEEING an attractive woman does not lead to having sex with her. Also, your mind is tricking you and telling you that these women would actually be interested in you if you approached them. Statistically speaking most of these attractive women are attractive to all men so they are either taken or they would reject you anyway.

With women the more beautiful they are the crazier they are. A beautiful woman has never heard the word "NO" in her life. You would have problems too if you got what you want since you were 15 years old and everyone complimented you all the time. Personally for dating/long term relationships PLAIN JANES are the way to go.

 

No comment, just ROFLMAO...

 

I was wondering about this. I get them too....

 

As ght5 said; Exercise and cold showers. I also get the odd random boner every now and then, and yeah, you can't always jump in a cold shower when that happens. But, the exercise helps to keep them to a minimum.

 

heyitshannes is that because excercise sends physical energy to rebuilding your muscles?
Or whats the reason that excercise helps?

 

You body will adjust. Right now you are full of testosterone. Find underware that fits good to help make it not so noticeable. Try not to let it get into your mind as a bad thing. It is natural.

 

Same like I am 15 years old just going through puberty and all the fucking time I have a fucking boner for no reason its gets emberrassing and akward

 

I'm hoping to get those unwanted boners back lol

 

why is it uncomfortable and awkward...just curious , not being a funny guy.

 

it can be awkward, but if you are a really attractive guy, some girls will give hints that they like what they see sometimes. not always. some girls get creeped out. once again, it kinda depends on context. most people know this kinda just happens to all guys, as a general rule, so they kinda just go on with their day. don't think about it too much, you are a man, that means you have decent bloodflow, you have a healthy drive, and that you have testosterone flowing through you. don't sweat it too much. Its akin to a second puberty when you quit.

 

Guys, I have a question. It's been bothering me since I started nofap.

What exactly is the goal here? I hear a lot of guys saying you should not fantasize at all, etc not even look at bikini clad women. I understand keeping your eyes and mind away from porn cocktails and anything extreme i.e 'a naked Asian girls doing ass to mouth'. As that causes a problem when you're with a regular attractive girl.

Can't we just fantasize about the girl we have a crush on at work, ...like a normal person? Won't doing this continously rewire us to normal. Instead of the 'hentai Filipino bbw' that got us fucked up?

Then I hear guys say they just get boners all the time. It's embarrassing.etc ...and somehow, this is the goal.

Now my confusion is this,...
I do not want to have boners whenever I see 'any' woman. I want to have boners when I'm with attractive women. ...and not get boners with women I don't find attractive. Like a normal person! ...Just like I did in my 20's. Back then, June with her big ass and cleavage turned me on every time she spoke to me. Her friend Regina (flat ass, funny voice) did not! I don't want to get to a stage where Regina would give me a boners. No.

Most of us have, through our history with porn, found ourselves aroused to insane terrible fetishes.

I had a scare a few days when my cousin came around to help me run to the bank. She is 16. And i got aroused (I.e hard) when she brushed past me in the kitchen.

As ashamed and deeply uncomfortable as I was, i had to go do some thinking about what it is I'm getting into here. I know I don't like young girls, I might think, oh she's pretty attractive for her age (like normal men) but ive never got a fucking boner!. I like women with big butts, clean nice smelling hair. I'm not big on pretty. Good grown woman body and clean hair. I'm African so a Serena Williams looking girl is my drug of choice for flings and relationships. And there's no short supply of that in Africa.

I honestly think that what is normal, biologically, is to have succesful sex and get boners with attractive women (or women you like) and not be attracted to, and not have boners with women who aren't. (unless they seduce or they go the extra mile, wearing very short dresses, bending over near you etc)

This I believe is normal.

Walking around and having boners randomly while active during the day is actually 'NOT' normal.

Would someone help clarify this.

I truly believe nofap NO PMO for an adult who's mind has been exposed to all sorts of things (that'll never go away) is a bit dangerous.

My cousin noticed the boner today & liked it. She keeps coming over here. I will relapse, and MO just so I can confidently tell her to go. This might become my new routine. MO once a week, NO porn. So I can be normal.
I don't want all the time boners. No.

Anyone with some insight into this, please help give me some understanding here. I really like being nofap. But don't want to seem psycho.

 

I think this guy is on point. There is a lot of sex negativity and sexual oppression going on. What's wrong with having a great sex life. If you get boners...let them be, then find somebody to connect with you will appreciate your bones.

If you really don't want sexual feelings at all and want to be a unique. Get on an anti depressant. Better yet, fuck your girlfriend.

 

What's up fellas. So right now, all you guys, including myself, are in a hyper sexual state. This is when your body is so used to objectifying women and getting off to that instead of having a real relationship with a woman like God designed it, we get super horny after periods of abstinence. You all need to stay on the streak. The urges will calm down. Stop thinking about sex and you won't get boners over your cousins or random girls. You should be able to sit next to a beautiful woman without getting a boner. This is how real bonds are made. You need to get out of the over sexualized state of mind! It's hindering you from a real genuine relationship with women.

 

Read my above post. Dude your cousin noticed your boner and liked it? TF? She's sixteen. Dude she's a trigger(if you're not trolling). You need to cut her off