Human interaction is what I crave & avoid at the same time

saying two words of appreciation to people could be one of way to interact.

 

Maybe pmo is having an affect on why you're ignoring people. I mean why put in the hard work of trying to befriend someone when you are 1 search away from instant pleasure at home? Because you are satisfying yourself by pmoing your body may feel it has no real need to try to interact with others, even if its what you truly want. You might also be lacking in some confidence to allow yourself to open up to others.

Don't be embarassed or ashamed by the way you are at the moment. Not only does porn have this affect on many, many people but it is also something you can easily change if you are willing to put some work in.

First of all I would suggest getting straight back on your streak and give yourself something to aim and work towards. Waking up to another day on your streak can be really motivating. Delete every bit of material and search history from your devices and make sure you never give into your temptations again. It might be hard but always remember, on the otherside of discipline is freedom. Visualise your perfect life. How would it look? How would you feel? What would you be doing? Remember this perfect life each time you want to relapse and tell yourself this will never, ever happen if you even think about giving in.

Secondly try exercising or improving your diet or learning a skill. Invest in yourself, be it some nice clothes or whatever you're into. Get yourself feeling good about yourself and increase your confidence and happiness.

Whilst your streak is still going, try speaking to people you might want to know. Maybe the people who tried reaching out to you before, the likelihood is they didn't even remember that you "ignored" them or thought nothing of it anyway. Or try someone knew. It might be uncomfortable depending on if you like social encounters but just start with basic small talk and try and smile and appear friendly. Chances are they will want to get to know you too. If you improved your confidence and feel-good nature beforehand then they will see that a mile off and you will seem a lot more interesting and friendly than you once thought you could be. Get in a habit of doing this and it will become easier.

As long as you are sticking to your nofap streak you will find that your energy and motivation to want to socialise will overcome the urge to avoid it. Once you see the brighter side of life without porn you will never want to return to the dark.

I wish you the best of luck, but if you work hard you dont need luck!

 

I think one of the way to make friends is to find people who have the same hobby or interest with you . Surely you can find a new one in case you dont have any in particular . Try to talk about your hobby with people that you know have the same hobby of yours . Build relationship and spend time together . Hope this can help and anyway never underestimate yourself . We are always more than what we think we are . All the best bro !

 

I can relate to not being able to connect with other people because of PMO. It's like there is no need for real interactions when the quick fix at home can solve the problem for the moment. The only problem is (as you already mentioned) the rest of the moments during the day. It's such a destructive lifestyle to PMO on a daily basis. Try finding something you are passionate about. There must be people who are passionate about similar stuff.

My main advice to be more social and less lonely is to force yourself out of your comfort zone on a regular basis by talking to strangers, smile at people (even if you don't feel like it), take cold showers, leave smart phone or/and computer turned off for a week or so, go for a jog or whatever. I know you can do whatever you put your mind to. Don't give up my friend. You will beat this, it's just a matter of time. Stay strong, God bless you.

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