HOW MY LIFE CHANGED DRASTICALLY FROM PORN ADDICT TO THE MAN I WANT TO BE IN THE COURSE OF 3 YEARS

I also abstained once when I was about 25. It lasted eight months.

 

Well, there was this one bikini pic, which hit me on a random website, and for some reason (bored, not fulfilled, emptiness, lonliness, whatever..) i clicked on it. I closed it after a second, but it kept in my mind for the next days. I was always like 'Why does this pic come now? Why not about 2 weeks earlier, so i could have fapped to it multiple times and maybe lost interest?" This was one of the strongest triggers for me, because i fapped to this girl so many times and such pics of her are very very rare. I even get a raging boner, when i write about this.
I was thinking 'I got to experience this, I need this'. Even if my inner said 'Don't do it, safe your progress, it will put you back', my mind was so strong and drove me far far away from the present and convinced me, that it really need this NOW. (my mind wanted not to take reality, and builed a new story and wanted to drive me into a fantasy land, where it could get quick satisfaction)
This 'I need it now, otherwise it won't be good' happend to me quite often in the past (not only with PMO, also with alcohol, weed n stuff), but the more and more i'm on this journey, i start to get this triggers under control. I return to the present moment (with meditation, breathing, or just by focusing), cause in the present moment there is no need for porn or masturbating. When I'm in the present moment, it seems totally unnatural to me. It's an ego thing.

 

Thank you for sharing your story, it's amazing. Nice to see another belgian guy over here I will take a look at your site.

 

You inspired me, bro

 

First of all thanks for this post, very inspirational.

- What is holding me back from succeeding in NoFap?

I know the benefits of NoFap, having personally experienced some of them myself, but still I fap during moments when the awareness is not there. I get caught up in the moment and forget the reason for this journey. It starts with taking a peek which then results in looking at even more NSFW stuff and eventually leads to fapping. It is the mentality that just a peek will not harm me, that prevents me from succeeding.
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- How am I responsible for that?

I am responsible for that because I perform the wrong action even after knowing what the right action is. It is one thing to perform something blissfully unaware, but to do it even after knowing that it is harmful is unforgivable.
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- How am I going to overcome this?

Will try to avoid all triggers. However, in the present day and age there is always something that one will unintentionally be exposed to. This is when the practice of mindfulness will help. I will be a person who will decide with full awareness the action required during each moment and not out of unaware habits. To cultivate mindfulness, I will regularly engage in practices such as meditation, breath awareness, yoga, etc.​

 

Will do, my dude

 

Your story very inspirational to me, it gives me hope I can keep pressing on with NoFap. Today is my first day of it. I wish u the best continue on your PMO journey.

 

Great work man, these kind of stories are gold for us who still struggle with this addiction.

 

Ik vind je verhaal heel fijn, maar ook inspirerend! Bedankt.

Three power question:
- What is holding me back from succeeding in NoFap?
Arrogance. Sometimes I think I can handle the urges instead of getting out and doing something physical. Also I do things which lead to poor choices like go for a massage which stimulates my sensuality. I do this when either something good happens, or something bad happens, to celebrate and to lift me respectively.

- How am I responsible for that?
It's a choice to skate on thin ice. And my ice is thin, so I can choose to stay in a safe place far from the temptation.

- How am I going to overcome this?
I make a choice. My successful future depends on it.

 

This is pretty tough

 

@Vincent Awareness 2 Porn
One of the best success stories on this forum! It strikes a chord with me because after three years try and error the U-turn was finally made. Thank you for hope and inspiration!

 

- What is holding me back? ME. Only thing/person who can hold oneself back is the person himself. NOTHING or NOBODY else can hold a man back - only his own thinking and lack of belief in himself. The stupid thinking that life works outside-in creates so much fear, doubt etc in a person that he gets stuck. The day we truly understand that life works inside-out and only our thinking holds us back - that's the day the success starts.

Thanks for the great post, Vincent. Really inspiring stuff.

 

Great post. A motivator for sure!

 

I would love to have someone like you mentoring me. This story really touched me and I feel really grateful that I had to go through all of this because there's so many awesome people I can meet here.

 

Hey man your story really inspired me. I have gone on streaks for years now, 85 days being my longest. I have never had a relationship with a girl and when I try to talk to them it usually fails and silence takes over. Does the ability to conversate better come or do I just have conversation woes?