How does someone socialize who doesn't know anybody?

I was alone too. I went to high school this year. New environment, new friends, new teachers. Frankly, I was afraid at first, but my environment turned out to be very friendly. The second day of school went very well. I hope it will always be like this.
You can go to a place and socialize there. I don't think you should go to places like bars. Then I think you will be worse. You may be embarrassed at first or you may have anxiety. But these things don't happen without trying.

 

My friend recommended me to make compliments to girls I see on the street. Like: "You have very good smile" or "You are sunny as the Sun".

It helps you to acquire self-confidence.

 

I'm in the same situation and also don't have social media. Just accept it and let the solitude strengthen you. I've tried all the usual advice too, nothing helps. Naked a man comes from the womb and naked he returns

 

Why don't you have a social media?

 

Pretty much make all my friends at work or school. Also a couple off dating sites. Have had some good friends leave recently too & live in a tiny place so kinda dealing with the same right now.

 

There are activities in which you can get to know people like team sports, language courses, other courses. I would find it also difficult to get to know people, I understand you(depends individually). There are also dating apps, groups in social media. I saw some new students that came to the town just straight forward looking for someone to show them city and hang around. You can also try to just propose to come to neighbour? Maybe he wouldn't mind additional company for an evening?

Those are the options I find I would be looking for in the first place. For more brave souls(not me for sure) you can try to poke people on the street, in the local shop or park, if there's any.

 

I had asked myself the same questions, because I have problems socializing.
Last year I moved to anither city. At first, I was alone. Then I searched for activities on the Meetup website and found people who met to play boardgames. I also went to take salsa dance classes.

I hope it helps you.

 

Pretty much all of my friends I have met have been through school, work, some organization place (Political, religious, etc.), social events, or online. Usually a website like Meetup can help with finding such an organization place or social events in general.

I won’t lie and give you a happy dance here. It’s challenging to make friends. Especially when you become an adult. You don’t know whether or not the people or strangers you meet are trustworthy or good people in general.

 

I'm the same, I try not to think about it because the negative thoughts often lead me to the crutch I'm trying to escape.

I made friends very easily when I was a kid but that's a whole different world. Being in school is like being in the Big Brother house, it's an artificial environment that doesn't exist in the adult sphere. Those who stay in their social bubble just can't relate to what it's like to not have that.

 

At least once a day I'll read a post on here from a guy saying "I met this girl" but they never say how or where they met.

 

Most of the time, yes. PMO and using Internet too much are the only things holding me back from living like a monk. I work out a lot, read books, and try not to think about the loneliness.

 

Guess what ? People feel the same. Especislly after corona.

Activities
Shelter
Lang lessons
Sports
Facebooku groups
Dont focus on finding people, focus on the activity so u dont look needy.

 

That's my situation too. I really don't know anybody here after over 4 years in this city.

At first, I fought it, and I was trying desperately to talk to people, make friends, get a date, anything. It seemed like the harder I tried, all I came up with was snake eyes.

During the 3rd year, I ended up doing 233 days on hard mode. Something broke in me. I just didn't care anymore. I didn't feel lonely anymore. I was alone, but it didn't bother me.

Being alone didn't motivate me at that point to change it anymore. I wasn't unhappy by myself. It was good enough to be at home working on music, reading, on fitness, or relaxing.

And now two years after that point, I'm cool on my own. I can go out or not. Talk to people or not.

Because if you meet dudes in public to become friends, almost every time the reason they are talking to you is for money. Sooner or later, they are going to ask for something. You can set your watch by it. And I don't need that crap.

 

You aren't on social media either? I don't know what people get out of it. I left in 2020. FB kept trying to make me come back to delete my profile. Then sending me a code, then it wouldn't delete, over and over. So I abandoned it.

 

I am too in no social media, have even banned youtube for dopamine use, only imp videos I see. Am trying to be physical and working to enhance my personality by observing my extrovert friends, thats the best way acc to me, cuz just scrolling the articles sitting alone in the room and not practicing physically is just waste of time. You should push yourself to go out and force yourself to hear boring talks of your extrovert friend, everyone have them, thats the best way to enhance your talking skills.

 

I don't understand it either. I left in 2013/2014 sometime around there. Everyone puts up a fake persona of how their life really is and hides all the mundane or messed up parts. Also hate how everyone just stays in their little bubble, they make friends in grade school and keep the same friends all lifelong. It's gay and retarded. The world puts out all these messages "blah blah blah we're all connected" when in actuality we're all isolated, alienated, and it's like we each live on our own little islands away from all the rest. Hate it.

 

Totally agree. I struggle to see the value in getting the information that media offers. Do I care what a celebrity thinks? Do I care about what random people on social media think or do? What is there that is of value? There isn't, but there is incredible freedom without it.