It's the winter break from university and I am back living with my parents and my brother. Even though I'm 19 and holds a driving license, I don't feel thrilled by the idea of asking my friends to hang out, instead I fill up the void by binge watching anime and I find the urge to masturbate every time I'm alone ( when everyone is out of the house, or in the shower). I don't really enjoy fapping, I just always feel the urge and give in. I start to have not really pleasuring experiences when watching porn, it just became part of my lifestyle. Fapping leaves me with a lingering headache and I become demotivated to do anything else after ejaculating. I catch myself fantasizing on women on the street, in class, having a hard time to maintain eye contact with women friends, and maintaining a healthy friendship with the opposite sex. I really hope this NoFap journey can help me to establish a strong confidence and a healthy outlook on women. Hope to learn more from my fellow Fapstronauts! I really hope I have the mental power to hold through this journey. Anyone has some sweet tips to hold through the withdrawals in the first few weeks? I really have bad self control when it comes to my desires and pleasures. Thanks in advance and have a great day !
Welcome, stopping PMO will be the best decision you can ever make. I promise it will make your life better. Here is a link to my journal with the plan I used to overcome porn and other addictions. I believe that it is a good starting point and my plan may give you some ideas for developing your own plan.https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/no-cross-dressing-re-boot-journal.87827/
Welcome to the community! If you haven't read the FAQ yet, I recommend that you do so! https://www.nofap.com/porn-addiction/ https://www.nofap.com/rebooting/ All the best!
Hey Ngo Johnny Lei, Welcome to the NoFap community! Here's a quick tip: if you find yourself always wanting to PMO when you're alone, minimize the time you're alone. This could be as simple as walking around the block when urges hit you. Also, you can write down what is motivating you to stop PMO and pull out that list whenever you feel urges. Feel free to message me or anyone else here if you have any questions or want to talk. Again, Welcome!
Welcome to the community! You are taking an important step today, it isnt an easy one but know you have the support of this community and that you can do it!
Hey @Ngo Johnny Lei , There is so much support on this forum, the profiles and the various groups. It works if you work it. I don't offer advise. I offer only my ESH (experience, strength and hope). Work it? Oh yeah. There's work to be done, that's what's worked for me. Two things I've found necessary. 1. I had to Learn the NoFap Program. 2. Getting involved with the community on here was vital to help my recovery. Learn the NoFap Program The resources listed on the "New Users: List of Rebooting Resources" helped me find my way around the reasons behind the program and the terms used. They are: Download the free Getting Started guide. Set up a PMO-Counter Badge. More info here! Basic introduction to the science of porn addiction! Basic information about rebooting and how our challenges can help you recover from PMO. This is the most important page to read. If you only can read one page, read this one. About NoFap. Watch this video - it is an epic intro resource if you want to get particular details about porn addiction and how it changes how your brain works. This is a good light-weight video about porn addiction. Read through the journal sections and see what other rebooters have experienced. It is good to know what to expect, otherwise the "chaser effect", "the surge", or the "flatline" might throw you off. If you come across vocabulary that you can't understand, check out our rebooting glossary of terms. GET ACCOUNTABLE FOR YOUR HABITS! Sign up for a peer accountability partner. Otherwise if you want more professional-hosted solutions, check out NoFap Premium or Reboot Camp. If you can afford to invest in yourself, these are great options. You can find this same list on the top of the forum you posted this message on at - the "New to NoFap" forum. Get Involved with the Community The community has been my lifeline. I've found journals I love, people who are very supportive and a place where I could get to work helping in a small way others. I'm nobody important around here. Just a normal user with no magic powers. But, I can: Read Journals, and comment when I have ESH Find people I admire and stay in touch via their profiles Pick a forum and make sure evvery post gets and answer. I can't answer them all, but that's good - different opinions make for a better group. Post in my journal (I could be better at it - but I do milestone posts at least) To make a journal go to the section listed by age and start one. Keep all your journal posts in one thread. But, for random thoughts, you can create a new thread. Looking forward to seeing you around on the forums, - L PS - Think of pmo like a wolf. Stay near the center of the group with the winners and the wolf has a more difficult time finding you. But, stray near the edges of the community and the wolf can pick you off.
