Help! Spiralling out of control and spent $110 on my addiction

I have probably spent around $600 in total now for all the toys and stuff.

 

Now? Like recently? Then you have got to find a way to prevent this ASAP. Have someone you know handle your transactions or something like that

 

@I Hate PMO is right. The temporary rush from this fetish is highly outweighed by the crash that follows, not to mention its long-term damage to one's self-esteem. It's a net loss, a spiral down, an abyss. If it continues to escalate then the fallout can be much much worse: anxiety, depression, identity confusion, and even acting out in real life which, once done, can never be taken back.

It's very potent stuff and it messes with people minds. In my opinion you need to find more healthy ways to deal with stress, build your self-discipline, and avoid this kind of porn completely.

 

I have a massage parlor/escort addiction have spend thousands per year. I completely understand the feelings you've expressed. This community is a fantastic place for us to be for support and understanding.

 

Can you still go and return the items? You shouldn't feel too bad about this... $110 is not that much, and you still are young enough to recover

I think a main cause of this fetish you have... as well as many other guys on here.. is that it is just a continuation of the desire for a woman.. but instead of seeking one externally in the real world, you are in a sense creating a woman out of yourself. It is purely porn induced and a result of intense craving and desire... it is escalation.. doing anxiety inducing things in order to get a bigger dopamine rush..

you can try looking up a guy online by the name of "Soaring Eagle"... he wrote a step by step guide on how to get out of PMO addiction

 

Side note, some of us on here are married with children...so this becomes a multi faceted issue that can be very complex. Not at all minimizing anybody else's struggles, just reiterating the importance of this community and where the addiction stems from...which you've noted - porn. I'm very grateful to be back and reading inspirational exchanges from other members.

 

Well, I think it is because PMO weakens our mental faculties… which causes us to not be able to handle daily tasks as easily… which causes us more stress than would occur if we were not using PMO as a soothing mechanism

Pretty much, if we don’t look at porn or masturbate, then we find healthy ways to deal with stress which makes us stronger in the long run, better able to handle stress, and more mentally stable overall

 

What Kind of Toys do You Talk about ?
Only things like fleshlights which Imitate a vagina or were there other stuff (maybe gay stuff) too?

 

I think the point is that OP spent a lot of money on his addiction.

 

I am Just interested.
Cause there are a Lot of Guys who develop HOCD and start looking trans/gay stuff.
You can See How far an addiction can Go-If He would spend Money on fetishes He Developed.

 

I understand. However, I still don't think it's relevant or productive at this time. OP is specifically asking for suggestions on what he should do to recover.

I personally find incredible support and recovery within a 12 step program. I supplement the program with additional tools such as therapy, recovery literature, prayer, meditation, exercise, healthy eating, sleep regimen, and most importantly, helping others. Though I don't claim to be perfect, or even somewhat close, when I actively implement those recovery tools in to my daily regimen, life gets better.

 

This sounds like a tough one. I get it. This appears to be escalation of the worst kind...the only real solution is find a reason to stop. A good reason. One that will make you think twice before indulging in this type of lifestyle.

 

Hello I no what you need is help am in day 494/1500 in this journey dm me let's talk man to man hope you recover soon.

 

Regularly participating in a 12 step group (if available) and seeking outside therapy could also provide some meaningful help...especially if there is existing, underlying issues that need to be worked through.