Hi guys i am totally new to the NoFap experience. I am addicted to pmo for 8 years now and i definitely want to stop it. My problem is that i keep relapsing (every 2-3 days). I think that the main reason i relapse, is because i am costantly thinking that pmo is some kind of a reward that i deserve if a have a difficult or an exhausting day (for example if i write a scientific paper or an essay etc). I need help and the proper motivation in order to finally STOP experience PMO as a reward. After i relapse i immediately regret it. But in the next few days when a new difficult day is ahead of me i experience again pmo as a reward. And after that i regret it!! Any tips on how to break that vicius cirkle?? Thanks in advance!!!!!!
We have all been there. You need a plan and must replace PMO with something positive. HERE are some things helping me.
Youre not alone. Youre not the only one. One thing that has helped me tremendously is .... daily to-do lists.... but not your average to-do list. Make one the night before. Look it over. Put things into three catagories... Immediate ... Soon .... and... Perfect World. Go over that list, make it the last thing you read ( besides this forum ) before you go to bed. Wake up, immediately go over the list again and add to it. If you need to, schedule things in one hour blocks of time. You need to schedule NOT TO FAIL. Schedule no P and M time. If you need to add that to the list, do it. ". I will not whack it today ". Youre not alone.
Hey @john 7 , My ESH is that this is a program of action and that meant work for me. It is not about "not doing something", for me, it was about working my program. There is so much support on this forum, the profiles and the various groups. It works if you work it. I don't offer advise. I offer only my ESH (experience, strength and hope). Work it? Oh yeah. There's work to be done, that's what's worked for me. Two things I've found necessary. 1. I had to Learn the NoFap Program. 2. Getting involved with the community on here was vital to help my recovery. Learn the NoFap Program The resources listed on the "New Users: List of Rebooting Resources" helped me find my way around the reasons behind the program and the terms used. They are: Download the free Getting Started guide. Set up a PMO-Counter Badge. More info here! Basic introduction to the science of porn addiction! Basic information about rebooting and how our challenges can help you recover from PMO. This is the most important page to read. If you only can read one page, read this one. About NoFap. Watch this video - it is an epic intro resource if you want to get particular details about porn addiction and how it changes how your brain works. This is a good light-weight video about porn addiction. Read through the journal sections and see what other rebooters have experienced. It is good to know what to expect, otherwise the "chaser effect", "the surge", or the "flatline" might throw you off. If you come across vocabulary that you can't understand, check out our rebooting glossary of terms. GET ACCOUNTABLE FOR YOUR HABITS! Sign up for a peer accountability partner. Otherwise if you want more professional-hosted solutions, check out NoFap Premium or Reboot Camp. If you can afford to invest in yourself, these are great options. You can find this same list on the top of the forum you posted this message on at - the "New to NoFap" forum. Get Involved with the Community The community has been my lifeline. I've found journals I love, people who are very supportive and a place where I could get to work helping in a small way others. I'm nobody important around here. Just a normal user with no magic powers. But, I can: Read Journals, and comment when I have ESH Find people I admire and stay in touch via their profiles Pick a forum and make sure evvery post gets and answer. I can't answer them all, but that's good - different opinions make for a better group. Post in my journal (I could be better at it - but I do milestone posts at least) To make a journal go to the section listed by age and start one. Keep all your journal posts in one thread. But, for random thoughts, you can create a new thread. Looking forward to seeing you around on the forums, * L PS - Think of pmo like a wolf. Stay near the center of the group with the winners and the wolf has a more difficult time finding you. But, stray near the edges of the community and the wolf can pick you off.
For me NoFap is 1/2 program & 1/2 fellowship. Click on these people and post a "hello" on their profiles: @2525 @weddingnails @PatrickR @Beamer @Arohamystic @MLMVSS @Rising Sun !! @Ready to be healthy @Brahmacharin @Struggle Bug @tet2vd @Satchi @BigDawg913 @zakes @LilD @kropo82 @DavidGibson @SteelshoT @Jewels @reystronaut Take a look at who they are exchanging messages. You will find more profiles. * L
One of the ways I got involved with the fellowship was by reading some really great journals. I've included journals from all age groups, spiritual members, religious members, secular members, male and female. You should find journals that help. If not, look around, there are hundreds of others from which to choose. When I say "it works if you work it", reading journals is part of that work. Once you open a journal, click "Watch Thread" in the upper right of the page to get alerts when new posts are made. Here are just a few: @EdwarDG Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/151107/ --- @zakes Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/149243/ --- @DavidGibson Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/143325/ - @Euklid Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/146663/ --- @LilD Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/147764/ --- @BreatheDeeply Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/139097/ --- @LiquidShoes Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/134044/ --- @Reverent Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/143845/ --- @Former_CD Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/87827/ --- @PatrickR Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/139570/ --- There are many more, and you can discover them on your own. But, these are great places to start. This is a work in progress. So, if a journal has changed or is no longer active, look around there are some amazing journals on here. * L
