Heavily addicted and edging to Sex scenes from Movies.

You don't watch hardcore but you do watch this. This is your porn. You fight it the same way we fight any other kind of porn.

First, manage your expectations. Fighting addiction is going to be tougher than you think it is. You are probably going to make a few mistakes. Acclimate yourself to the idea that you are going to get knocked down, but you get up again, you are never gonna keep me down I get knocked down, but I get up again etc.

Second, if YouTube is a problem, stop YouTube. Your addiction doesn't care if it cramps your lifestyle. If you stay on YouTube, you'll keep engaging in the behavior, it's that simple.

Third, understand this is at least in part a dopamine thing. You need dopamine, you found a hack to get easy dopamine, if you remove this hack the dopamine will be missing. You'll need to replace it by getting it honestly, from better sources. Do things you enjoy doing (that don't involve a screen), exercise, make the best use of your time and appreciate that in yourself. At the same time, you need to actively eliminate sources of distress so you aren't triggered to seek dopamine so often. Stop watching the news or whatever. These people monetize your anxiety and outrage, don't let them play you. Eat your vegetables, brush your teeth, clean your room, talk to real people, touch grass.

Fourth, journal regularly so you can track triggers and patterns and make adjustments to your game plan when you hit a reset.

Fifth, when those patterns become more clear, as in, "I want to use when X happens or I feel a certain way," work on identifying the specific psychological need being created so you can look for legitimate ways to fill it. You use porn because it makes you feel good, you need to feel good because something else is making you feel bad. Find it. Otherwise you're throwing time and effort at the symptom without curing the problem, and that isn't sustainable. You'll give up and reset every six months or so. Ask me how I know.

 

@Meshuga is absolutely right! For us, watching lusty videos on YouTube that aren't hard-core porn, then saying we aren't watching porn is straight garbage. Just because society may not deem it illegal to show uncensored on the internet does NOT mean it isn't porn. And for that matter, even if you're watching a video of clouds pass in the sky, if that's something that you get aroused by or triggered by....ITS PORN, period. And anything that even REMOTELY comes close to that category is something you should steer VERY clear of. If not, I wouldn't expect this to just go away and not be a problem for you. Playing with fire WILL get you burned. It's never a question of IF, but WHEN.

 

Nowadays everywhere we can see that all over the ott platform the main reason why web series are getting popular because they have fantasies world or erotic scenes which is totally soft p*** and don't excuse yourself that you are not watching p*** yeah you are feeding your brain with dopamine and it will eventually lead you to relapse brother I have been there I had 62 days highly confidential streaks but unfortunately I watched movie name " a girl in the basement " and it had huge intimate scenarios which made MI hard Tu control and lead me to excessive reset, and brother don't go on social media as well stay safe, wish you good luck and choose reading newspaper over Netflix.

 

nice advice