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Giving this another shot... success and recent failure

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Workingtoit, Jun 4, 2018.

  1. Workingtoit

    Workingtoit Fapstronaut

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    Hey guys...

    just thought i would share some of my story here... and hope for some advice because i feel stuck.

    So about a year ago i started my nofap journey. It was my first intentional attempt- and boy was it a good one. I remember the super powers i felt when i started, the unwavering confidence and self discipline. it was unimaginable.

    You can click on my name, and read some of those posts. from the early days, to 30 days, to 60, to 90. It was all so amazing.

    Somewhere in the process of all that, I got a girlfriend. Had a few sexual encounters, and successfully cured my PIED. It was amazing- we were having sex, i was confident, working out, i was so happy.

    Either way, days into our actual official relationship, I developed hypochondria. for those of you who don't know what that is, its health anxiety. i was so worried i was dying with some crazy disease. i am not sure why it happened (i ended up seeing a therapist about this) but that sent me into a craze that eventually led to me ending my relationship, pushing people i love away, gaining weight, and eventually, PMOing.

    I continued to do this for months. I never got back into nofap. I kept making excuses. but now, I'm ready to jump back in (or I have been for the last couple months).

    My only issue is, i can't manage to get a decent streak going. overtime i start doing well, i end up failing within days. i believe my longest streak since my 90 days was 2 weeks or so. I need help. Any advice appreciated. I am going to keep posting in this thread to hold myself accountable. I need to beat this. I want to beat this.

    Sorry for rambling, but i just needed to get off my chest.
     
  2. Hi.

    There are two major things that helped me to get going. One is meditation. And other is journaling. I might be spamming this all over the place but it's because I really believe these are the most important and powerful two things that exist.

    Make sure you create a personal journal thread in Reboot Logs section and blog there on a regular basis. As well as just generally be active participant in various forum discussions. I recommend this to everybody new here because it's the major thing that helped me when I was first starting. Just lurking on forums, reading and learning is great. But it usually is so much more powerful to engage. It helps to keep us motivated and accountable when we are active part of community. And keeps this in front of our minds so we don't forget about importance of it and slip away in our old habits. Sharing is also therapeutic. This is a major reason why AA meetings work so good. But that was developed before internet era. These days we can get most of the same benefits online through communities like this. So don't underestimate the power of active participation.

    I would also like to suggest you to look into mindfulness meditation. It has helped me personally tremendously to learn how to deal with urges and triggers. It takes a while to get good at it and notice results, so you need to be consistent with it, but once you do it's very powerful. It has been used by sages for thousands of years to deal with various issues of the mind. And in recent decades the science is also catching up to what ancient sages have know for centuries. Meditation these days are widely used as very effective tool by psychologists for treating addiction and by neurologists for supporting recovery of the brain. It is a great exercise for the brain the same way as jogging is great exercise for the body. Check out this Ted talk, it gives a good idea of what's it about when it comes to philosophy. As far as practical side of it there is this awesome smartphone app called Headspace for guided meditations to get you started.

    Wish you lot's of strength and success in your reboot journey!
     

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