Gamify your life

Have you ever thought why gaming and PMO are so appealing and why you lose motivation for life? Because games and PMO offer rewards and scores while you are focused and motivated by curiosity and expectations of those rewards.

On the other hand, life offers both rewards and disappointments. Yet, we are more prone to dwell on the failures. Why not make life more exciting by changing it into a game where you set your goals, remain focused, score points and give yourself rewards.


This challenge will be self-moderated. You will count your score and give yourself rewards. Requirements:
- no PMO is one of the requirements but it's just a part of it, as it is only a part of your life; there is a lot of other stuff going on which you should track and award yourself for
- stay accountable daily and count your score
- you will score points for the areas below (you will need to complete the form):

1. Major quest (define why you do it and if you made your progress in this area; if you complete your major question that needs to last at least several days, you can choose another) - you write your "why", or what you did - you can score 100p for the success at the end and you can set another one.
   
2. nofap (10p without porn for a day, +30p for a clean day, only sex allowed)
3. diet (10-20p - you decide)
4. sport (10-20p - diet, stretching, yoga, jogging, gym - you decide how many points)
5. self-care / meditation (10-20p - it can be anything - wash your hair, a walk to calm nerves, get a haircut, take a bath, watch a film, meditation - you decide)
6. learning / reading (10-20p - it can be reading a novel, a textbook, a self-help book, learning anything)
7. social (10-20p - anything that requires leaving your comfort zone)
8. MINOR QUEST!!! (20-30p - do something unusual, change your good/bad routine, do the things in a different order or way, make your bored brain puzzled, astonish yourself, make your life more exciting, change your route to work/school)

Extra points:
- abstinence from alcohol / cigarettes / games for a day +20p (you can customize this award)
- optional a week-long streak boost + 3p

 

You may consider some power-ups:

Power-ups:
- pomodoro technique (you can use apps to focus for 25 minutes on a given tasks, which I find very useful and effective)
- exercise, meditation, cold showers, cold baths (break the tension, give more energy, make your more self-controlled and braver) - you also get additional points for exercise and meditation

Suggested penatlies (you can customize them if you wish)
- complaining about life, pitying yourself for more than half an hour a day: - you are responsible for your life, you create your life and your luck, complaining is just finding excuses -10p
- looking at porn: -20p
- edging, looking at porn: -50p
- full relapse to PMO: -70p
You can decide to adjust them to your standards

The goal of this challenge is to score 10,000 points along the way and use the benefits of the activities in your real life.

Stages :
Level 1 - 500p - Good start. Keep going. Let's see how it goes (award yourself in real life - a small treat)
Level 2 - 1000p - You are determined, stay on track (award yourself in real life)
Level 3 - 2000p - Way to go! You take this challenge seriously! (you deserve a treat and a round of applause, award yourself)
Level 4 - 5000p - You're halfway there. Focus! (what are you going to get yourself - decide, you deserve it)
Level 5 - 8000p - You're almost there (time for a reward)
Level 6 - 10000p - You've made it! Did you enjoy yourself?
you can start another round but you level up so set yourself next goals!(victory, reward yourself big time!)


The form to complete each day:
- major quest - pts, reason, activities :
- nofap (10 or 30p)- pts:
- diet (10-20p) -pts:
- sport (10-20p) -pts:
- self-care /meditation (10-20p) -pts:
- learning / reading (10-20p) -pts:
- social (10-20p) -pts:
- no smoking / no alcohol / no gaming (10-20P) -pts:
- MINOR QUEST - challenge your routine and yourself (20-30p) -pts:
- penalties (complaining about life, looking at p, edging, full relapse (-10p, -20p, -50p, -70p)
Day score:
Total score:

If a partcipant "decides to take a break" for any reason or has a reset streak, he shouldn't subtract penalty points because it will make him feel even worse and may kill the motivation for working on himself. The points gathered during the challenge are NEVER lost because they are your past achievements and SHALL NEVER BE NULLIFIED. The goal of this challenge is to promote positive actions and feelings. No "mistake" or "negative mood" should be used by the addicted brain to encourage a participant to quit on himself. YOU MAY TAKE A BREAK ANY TIME AND RETURN ANYTIME and then continue the challenge from where you started without additional penalty.

PARTICIPANTS:
Don80, Revanthegrey, Uruz, HydrogenAero, devsMind, adastraperaspera

 

The challenge in my life begins! The form will be edited as the day progresses

The form to complete at the end of the day:
- major quest - pts, reason, activities:
I want to beat my personal streak in nofap and learn to control my urges. I want to find motivation and score 10,000 points in this challenge.
- nofap (10 or 30p)- pts: 30p
- diet (10-20p) -pts: 10p (no sweets, no sugar)
- sport (10-20p) -pts: 10p (elliptical 30 minutes - not much)
- self-care /meditation (10-20p) -pts: 0
- learning / reading (10-20p) -pts: 20p (SPAM REMOVED (spam code #001) - REPORT TO MODERATION - so far 37 pages)
- social (10-20p) -pts: 10p (store conversation)
- MINOR QUEST - challenge your routine and yourself (20-30p) -pts:
No sugar and no gaming today!
At least 3 pomodoro sessions of Spanish + grammar exercises
Unplanned errands with varioius routes
Started reading a new book
Started this challenge 20p
- penalties (complaining about life, looking at p, edging, full relapse (-10p, -20p, -50p, -70p): so far, so good
No alcohol / no cigarettes / no gaming bonus of 20p.
Day score:120p
Total score: 120p

I guess the potential penalties for edging and a relapse should be increased to -50p and -70p.

 

I increased the penalties but I don't want this challenge to be based on penalties and self-blame. I know that fear and playing down everything because a relapse has happened is very destructive. I want to be more positive but I'm heavily addicted to PMO but I still can achieve successes.

 

I hope this challenge will serve you well, @Revanthegrey.

 

You can customize the challenge to suit your needs.

 

@Slider8 It took me decades to understand it. The PMO addiction is tricky. It made me perceive friends as foes. But I mustn't get big-headed. I know that this forum can also raise dopamine since it's sort of social media where you get praises and likes. I need to stay focused on my recovery. Only several hours ago I still missed the p materials I watched. It's like the bond with PMO is made of steal but it's just the illusion. I'm currently reading a book "SPAM REMOVED (spam code #001) - REPORT TO MODERATION". I'm determined to read it in one go. It's opened my eye on the PMO addiction.

 

Welcome to the challenge!

 

I haven't mastered nofap yet. Today I feel strong. Elliptical is just a tool that can help me stay in shape, relieve stress, boost my confidence a bit but it can't stop me from PMO. At one time I feel strong but the motivation may vanish any moment. I know it from experience. Yesterday I relapsed - I don't know why - what was the excuse: tiredness, visit to our family and some comments, my son's issues and his stubborness? Or maybe it was just a return to my PMO environment and the brain took the bait. Today I don't feel urges and I'm happy about it. I'm reading the book on nofap. But I'm worried if I don't overdo with tasks - it's right after 8pm here and I want 3 or 4 things done (all of them are optional but I would feel better if I accomplished them but then again I think I should take a break and relax without PMO).

 

Day 2 in the challenge; a tiny reward a piece of chocolate in the morning for scoring a clean day and no sugar afterwards. - Update I failed with the sweets today. Gotta try harder tomorrow.
- major quest - pts, reason, activities (your pep talk and motivation boosters):
PMO is mostly mind game. It is addictive because it's based on various fallacies and falsehoods: that men cannot live without sex and that they need for health (false - sportsmen refrain from sex and are more successful, get better results than PMO addicts who are bored most of the time, irritated, suffer from withdrawal urges.
- nofap (10 or 30p)- pts: 30p
- diet (10-20p) -pts: 0 fast food, sweets
- sport (10-20p) -pts: 20p - elliptical and swimming
- self-care /meditation (10-20p) -pts: 10p meditation
- learning / reading (10-20p) -pts: 20p Spanish, reading
- social (10-20p) -pts: 0
- no smoking / no alcohol/ no gaming (20p): 20p
- MINOR QUEST - challenge your routine and yourself (20-30p) -pts:
I went swimming although I didn't feel like it at the beginning. I went down the pipe slide which I dreaded as I'm claustrophobic. 20p
- penalties (complaining about life, looking at p, edging, full relapse (-10p, -20p, -50p, -70p) You can decide to adjust them to your standards
Day score:120p
Total score: 240p