Found out my mom is cheating. What do I do?

Maybe he's just a friend.

 

Lol people always says this in dramas that involves cheating.

 

Point it out to her.

And threaten to point it out to your dad if she doesn't learn some f*cking dignity.

 

Don't put an extra burden on your life which has nothing to do with you. There are two possibilities-
1- she is cheating on your dad
2- she is not,
In both circumstances you ain't responsible for that. If she is cheating then you must be sure of that before confronting her. Idk about your relationship with your mom but I can understand it's really a painful thing to know. Find out why she is acting weird, you can check her phone while she is bathing or away from it for a long time. If it's true then talk to her. Ask her why is she doing this. Maybe she is not happy with your father, maybe your father isn't a good husband. There are many possibilities. All you can do is to have patience and don't be stressed by this.

 

You should just talk to her about it. As terrible as cheating is, it’s also a scummy move to just spew it to everyone else without having the full story or their reasons, but that doesn’t mean it should go unnoticed imo.

 

I agree with this. Just talk to her and ask her if she's cheating. If I understand correctly, you said shes cheated before? If that's the case, then it's not much of a stretch to think it might be happening again. Talk to her and tell her everything you're concerned about and demand clarification. Then, if you find out she actually is cheating, if it were me I would tell her that if she doesnt tell your dad, you will have to tell him. I wouldnt personally feel right about him not knowing, because that's really unfair to him.

 

Also, I'm sorry you're going through this. That's awful :/

 

Maybe he's just a pen pal.

 

Theres gotta be more solid evidence than just suspicious behavior.

 

I do not know what you should do. I do know there's very little you can do as it's not your job to run your parents life and what ever happens between them is not your fault. If you want to confront her then Castielle's advice seems sounds. No guarantees on the outcome.

If you've never gotten in contact with a consoler/therapist then I suggest doing so. Sounds like your parents have things of their own to work out and judging from your profile you are an adult so being more independent would be a big help to both you and them.

 

If shed did it once, well.

First of all - what do you want to do about that?

No one can talk about this to you. It´s about you and how you choose to deal with that situation. I recommend you to answer this questions for yourself and decide. Whatever you do, it´s okay. Don´t listen advices others, just do what you feel it´s right to do in your situation.

1) If she did it once - ask her if she has someone again. Tell her your thoughts. Be completely honest about that and what you think. It´s your parents, your family. You have the right to say your opinion.

2) Ask her if she´s thinking that this is okay?
WHY she do that?
What about her husband?
Does she wanna make a fool from him?
If not, ask her if she thinks that your father deserves to know the truth.
Ask her if your dad was cheating on her, would she like to know about that or better be a fool?

3) If you were in your father´s situation - Would you like to know that your wife is cheating you?

4) Do you want to live in a Lie or in a True?

5) Does your father want to live in a Lie or in a True?

6) Do you want to your father live in a Lie or in a True?

By the way, my mom has found my father cheating on her.

They no longer live together. However, my dad still gives her gifts, Mom too. They call to the oher for holidays, etc. Mom has started to live and enjoy life, and my dad is also with woman that she´s probably better for him. Remember that you do not see your mother's reasons, and that sometimes the changes in life are big, but ultimately benefit everyone.

When I found out, I was lying cramped in bed at that time, and was very scared what gonna be. But as I wrote, it turned out that it was beneficial for all. Me too.

 

Ohhh man, I also have a niece who is 6 years old... Should i be worried? Is this what i have to look forward too when she grows older?

 

Keep out of it. As long as your mother does not try to make you an obvious complice, don´t start playing Dad´s little Inspector boy or snitch.
It´s their adult game, not yours. Do not participate or take their responsibility from them in this, before they ask you to join it. Compare it with a porn addiction situation: Would you tell it your mother, if you found out your father is addicted? Or pressure him directly to confess?

 

Sorry for you.... If this continues for long time, you had to do something. If I was you I would have search this h guy name via his number.
Just ignore it for some period or she will hate you. Take care

 

Lmao perhaps @Ra's Al Ghul is @PlsSaveMe 's mom

 

How about casually asking your mom about that H guy? In front of your dad, while eating maybe. So you can see her reactions

 

If she has nothing to hide her reaction will show, but if she's guilty you will know.

 

Then she''ll just change the name of that contact and he will lose his clue