Fantasizing in a long distance relationship

I'd say don't allow yourself to spend to much time fantasizing. I don't think it's something you can't do. But like you said it's not a good thing if it might cause relapses. I totally get how a new interesting relationship can be hard not to think about. Maybe rechannel those physical fantasies into thinking about the person in other ways.

I've done what your saying. And I think in my case it made me over eager for sex when we were together. It can become all you want which isn't good. Focus on the person you are interested in more. What they like, who there are, other reasons you enjoy their company.

 

I've gotten way into chess.com I love it. The game is very mentally demanding and you can play speed chess that makes games go quick. A game or two if that really can get my head back to neutral.

 

This is common in relationships esp. when you're really into the other person.

First, acknowledge the feeling, don't fight it.

Try breathing. Sounds Wii-woo, but breathing can change our mental processes. Mindful breathing, meditative, box breathing— find one that works.

Refocus that energy. Instead of fantasizing, write that shit down in a journal, a Google doc, whatever works. You don’t have to do anything with it but hey, your lady my like to read some of them. The idea is to process the thoughts so you can clear your mind and sleep.