Failure with women, what is the point to even stop PMO!?

Have you ever thought that the problems you've described may be caused by your porn addiction?

 

Don't ever use the word NEVER , its tough and I myself have been single for long stretches and I have heard it all from people who say it will turn around you will have your day sometime and on and on when your feeling down it all sounds like bullshit, and most of the time when I give up on wanting to meet someone out of nowere a women wants to meet me it seemed the more I want it the farther away it was the more I build my life not looking for women and doing what I want the more they seem to want in

 

Exactly, NEVER say NEVER. PMA (positive mental attitude) is key for this situation. You shouldn’t rely on nofap to change how the opposite are attracted to you, let yourself do the changing - i.e look for a job, change your look, change your hair etc.

 

It's because you keep telling yourself you never will, so that automatically sets your subconcious up for disaster and failure in relation to women and probably other aspects of your life. Of course stopping any addiction is worth it, you'll have to turn those negative thoughts around and really try to better your attitude towards what you're trying to achieve.

Just remember, the more you tell your mind you can't do something, the more that becomes true and only reinforces that negative thought making the cycle harder to break.

 

This is porn addiction talking. Lots of people here can relate to it. We're all going to tell you that giving up porn is essential in order to change this. It'll also help you fight off the depression I suspect you're feeling.

Here's my reply in detail to what you said.

So what? You've got that to look forward to. It's going to be great. Loads of guys kissed a woman for the first time when they were older than you.

Great! You can get dates. Seriously, what does it matter how many or few dates you've ever had? It doesn't.

This is a real issue for you, about your life goals and self-esteem. You need to put the effort in to find a job. Women will respect you if you're putting in that effort and trying to get a job - any decent job will do, by which I mean just avoid nasty industries like porn. And if you do, you will get a job.

If you can't get a paid job, volunteer.

Why? Actually I know why. This is 100% in your control because every man (at least if he's not disabled) can walk round his neighbourhood. So you can change this, and should change it. Get up at a decent time in the morning, get properly dressed, have a shave and put on a clean shirt, and get out. Just walk if need be. Better, go to a coffee shop or library or nearby town or city and look for that job. Or do your volunteering.

This is just wrong. Aren't there women at the place where you're going to volunteer? Or at the centre where you're going to go to find support in looking for a job? I think you're not noticing desirable women around you, because you're depressed and addicted to porn. If you start being smarter and more active, you'll begin to notice women noticing you.

Why not? How nice are you to women there? Try again, and do more swiping right. Or use OkCupid or some other service where you can say Hello rather than just swiping. There are many fantastic women out there who'd love to be your first kiss, and more. Start respecting and noticing these women instead of swiping left on them.

Total bullshit. What's true is that you might get to 48 without a kiss, and never get sex or a girlfriend, if you decide now that you might as well watch porn.

Get out of this depression and porny workless indoors life now, and I think you'll have sex within months.

Look online for advice on how to beat depression. Look for a job. Read. Exercise.