Hey there, in my fapping days I used fb a lot like a p substitute. I'd go there and look at the pictures of girls that turned me on, I'd fantasize about f***ing them and so on. I'd do that to pictures of acquaintances, friends, coworkers. I know it's sick and disgusting. I hate myself for doing that. And still even after 40 days from time to time I'd think about the pics of this or that girl I used to M to... Now I kill the thought as soon as it comes to my mind and chase these thoughts. I no more go to facebook unless it's work related. That seems to work good, but it bothers my that these images come to my mind... I still have the desire to go check someone's profile to have a look at the new pics. It's makes me sick even more because I have my girl that I love and I'd never cheat her, I have never wanted to really have sex with someone else but fantasizing about it used to feel so good. Does someone else have the same problem? How do you deal with it? Were you able to forget all about that? Thanks
My SO deleted his FB. He said all the anxiety around it became depressing because of the triggers that haunted him. Turns out "restrictions settings" weren't enough. He also made a rule, no IG, No Tumblr, No Twitter, etc as they all are a host of P-Subs. He even has YouTube restrictions on and only really uses it for "This Old House" and his rare gun and weapons collections throughout history videos etc. His thoughts on this were, there's always going to be "someone new I may know - that I don't want to Know" This is just how he dealt with it. When one of our friends brings up that 'oh, yeah we missed something because we aren't on FB' (I left too, in support) He just casually says it's one of the best things he's ever done. I think he means that. Truly. Whatever you decide to do, good luck.
I'm currently on my 4th week of no social media. I was like that as well. I used to relapse because I'd see a cute girls picture and couldn't resist but fantasize about what I'd do to her. Since I've deleted it...I've learned that it was my weakest link in my chain of resistance. I don't fantasize anymore. The only time I find women beautiful is when I am standing in front of them in real life. It's also an addiction in itself so be careful. I'm not saying its all bad because I will probably get back on it as soon as I feel I can control myself. Just remember if you want to change...you must figure out and expose all the triggers and then fight and resist. You will thank your future self.
Thanks for you replies @Jolie and @Mixtec ! I've also deleted all by social media accounts except for facebook. The problem with fb is that I really need it for work. I've tried to deleted it in the past but it's really a lot of trouble, because all the organizational stuff is passing through the fb, sometimes important last minute changes in schedule or other important info is posted. And when you are not on fb often you don't get the info on time. It sucks that we are so dependent on a site like that but the no fb promoters are much less in number than the pro-fb... However since my streak started I've really only been using it for work related stuff. To be honest I've also looked at some other pics of my "friends" but not deliberately and not with the purpose of doing what I used to do. It's just the old habits that come to my mind from time to time and make me wanna do it again...
