Ever accountable

I'm not quite sure what you're asking. Are you asking if using this NoFap site is an unreliable recovery aid? People are human, are weak, and fail at times. Recovery often takes several if not many tries. It's not due to a failure or weakness of this site, but a personal failing of the person.

Now, is he improving? Did he go much longer without P than he did before? Is he committed to further improvement and the goal of complete abstinence?

If you do have evidence of him lying to you, that is definitely a serious issue you need to fix with him.

 

I think Katrina was asking if Ever Accountable is reliable. I would say you can't put all your trust in technology since things can go wrong. I once had K9 filter and it ended up blocking every site on the internet. Another filter I used would block this site.

I have used X3 Watch in the past and had no problem with that.

 

I use EA and it will say if it's been clicked on in the app.
I've used it for years.
People lie.
Tech doesn't.... It can malfunction... But again... People lie.

And if EA had a problem... You would get a email.

 

Some just think it's their right to check out other women. Some are too scared to quit PMO because that means facing their fears.

Here's a quote from Robert Downey Jr:
People never change because they are under threat or under duress. Never. They change because they see something that makes their life seem valuable enough to start moving toward a life worth living.

Maybe your boyfriend sees no value in not looking at this stuff. You obviously know him a lot better than I do but this whole thing seems like you're his mother grounding him and he's like, 'I don't care if you ground me I'm still going out anyway'.

I wish it was different for your sake but this seems like beating a dead horse.

I don't think you're religious but I'll post a video below of story of a man who continued to look porn who looked at porn, had affairs and saw prostitutes. Even after his wife caught him and he confessed to what he had done he still carried on with doing what he was doing so she left him. It was only after she left him that he sought help and began to take his addiction seriously. He won his wife back not through what he said but with how he acted. His actions proved to her that he had changed. God is mentioned quite a lot in the video but it's a good story and maybe you need to do something similar to what she did. Leaving might bring about change or he just might carry on and if that's the case he loved the girls on the internet more than you, and you deserve someone better. I can't imagine the state you're in and leaving someone is incredibly tough but how long can you go on like this?

 

I would think that you should probably find someone with your same values.
Porn is a poison. It ruins relationships just like any other destructive addiction. My addiction to it killed my marriage. I won't let it ruin my next one.
Maybe bring it up as a sore point and how you feel its cheating during the get to know you phase of your next relationship.
I honestly do wish you luck. And I hope you find happiness.
Keep us posted.

 

Beautiful quote, thanks for sharing Sorry to hear about your plight @Katrina Rose ! Is your bf ready to go the distance to get himself checked into a program/ physical rehab? Does he even acknowledge that he has a problem ? If not then denial's never gonna take him towards recovery..