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Did I screw up with this girl?

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by zxcv, Sep 16, 2017.

  1. zxcv

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    Okay, so I went to game night where we playing games. We had a good time, it seemed like I was getting along with this one girl, so at the end I tried to get a hug. She only gave me a half hug, and she didn't seem like she was even into that. Since she didn't seem like she was into it, so I just accepted the half hug and didn't try to push things further. Am I screwed?
     
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  2. noonoon

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    Typically if a girl is into you they'll make deep eye contact. Did that happen?
    Also, i'd generally say her not wanting to give you a full hug isn't a good sign buy you can't be sure. There may have been other reasons you weren't aware of.
    Did you ask for her phone number? If not, that's where you are screwed.
    What you should have done is figured out some excuse to walk her out to her car...or just followed her after she left, caught up with her and say something like, "hey! You know, i was wondering if you'd like to go out sometime and do something?"
     
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  3. zxcv

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    So do I have no chance with her now?
     
  4. Chudmeister

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    Maybe she doesn't want to get close that fast, try texting her or calling her, full on hugs are an intimate thing. Get to know her before you try that
     
  5. Derek5150

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    You're fine. Don't over-analyze it. Maintaining deep eye-contact has a more reliable method of measuring how she feels. See if she smiles when you smile.
     
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  6. noonoon

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    You have no chance so long as you don't make a move.

    Remember this: even in baseball a good batting average is 3/10. Three hits for every 10 tries. Now, what chance does the batter have if he never steps up to the plate? Zero.

    So, step up to the plate.
     
  7. vibemaker

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    Just try to ask her out. Don't over-analyze. Don't think. If it's happening fine. If not, she's not the one for you.
     
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  8. Freefaller

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    When you were playing games, did anything else come up that you both happen to like to do? That is a perfect segway to asking her out.
     
  9. thefuk is half hug?
    anyway its always better not to do physical contact first. better wait for it cause if she likes you she will try to touch you. if she does tehn you are free to touch her too and hug. SPAM REMOVED (spam code #001) - REPORT TO MODERATION bro
     
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  10. ewq

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    It is very important that you don't seem desperate. They can smell desperation from miles away. If she rejects you, don't appear hurt even you are hurt deep inside. Laugh at it and move along. But yeah, maybe that hug thing was awkward to both of you and she panicked a little and gave you a half hug. Who knows, maybe she is stressing that she gave a cute guy only a half hug? We have all done stupid things in awkward situations so don't stress about it.
     
  11. Chudmeister

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    A half hug is when you hug someone side ways.
     
  12. MarinoBigFan1984

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    Half hugs are creepy and send mixed messages. Either ask her out or leave her alone no halfway stuff.
     
  13. zxcv

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    I wanted to give her a normal hug. She's the one that made it a half hug.
     
  14. MarinoBigFan1984

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    Generally I see guys on these forums take forever in approaching the girl and it leads to awkward situations.
     
  15. HappyDaysAreHereAgain

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    @zxcv,you haven't screwed up yet. There are a couple of ways you could screw up.
    1) You could pursue her hot and heavy and completely creep her out.
    Or,
    2) You could do nothing, give up and eliminate yourself from any future with her.
    If you enjoyed playing games with her, you can tell her. You can also let her know that you would like to talk with her some more. You can continue making connections without pressing so hard that you scare her off. Until she gets to know you better, she is reacting to her past experiences. She may have learned from some bad grabbing experiences that new guys need to be let no closer than half a hug. Give her a chance to get to know you.
     
  16. I doubt it. Your post makes it sound like you met her during that night. If so, I wouldn't have gone for a hug with a girl I'd just met. If you knew her before, did you just straight up hug her or did you ask?
     
  17. zxcv

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    I've talked to her a few other times. And asked with having my arms open for a hug.
     
  18. Freefaller

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    I was going to ask how you asked but every scenario I can think of is a bit creepy. Hopefully you weren't creepy about it.

    This is fact, AF. You have to just go for it. Don't ask for anymore hugs. Don't ask for anything again. Just be like, "Hey, I had a great time hanging out with you the other night. I have been wanting to see ::Insert Movie Here:: Come with me. It will be fun."

    If she is down to clown, she won't hesitate. If she is not into you romantically, she will come up with an excuse or hit you with the dreaded, "who else is coming?" lol
     
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  19. HappyDaysAreHereAgain

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    "Who else is coming," is not a closed door. She does not know you well enough to feel comfortable alone with you. She may have had a bad dating experience or just feel a little powerless or insecure. Even with others around you can make progress in getting to know her; others can even help keep the conversation going. In a group, you can't get naked with her, but if that is why you are going on your first date with her, you have been watching too much porn.
     
  20. Freefaller

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    True. Not a closed door but I would say it’s not promising. You also make a good point about her not feeling comfortable alone but in most scenarios I assume you have already been out with friends a few times and this would be a gauge to see if she wants to go out just the two of you
     

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