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Cuckold fetish is destroying my life

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Deleted Account, Nov 20, 2023.

  1. It has come to a point where I basically cannot get aroused to healthy relationships.

    Whenever I think of something sexual, it's always about
    an extremely promiscuous woman who does not respect me and is constantly being gangbanged and similar.
    It goes far more extreme than this, but I'm sure you get the idea. Even on the less extreme end, I basically hope that every potential romantic partner of mine has been with fifty, hundred, two hundred... or even more men.

    I've abstained from PMO for forty-eight days. It has not even slightly recovered. I'm losing hope. There is a voice in my head constantly telling me to give in and go back to chronically masturbating to cuckold pornography. It's telling me to accept that my future is going to be like this.

    My mind is trying to rationalize and say that I want this.
    That I want my future wife to be creampied in gangbangs, to not respect me, to completely disregard me and pick other "superior" men over me.
    Do I want this? I don't even know.

    Please help me. What do I do? I'm losing hope. I'm constantly thinking about whether to stop struggling and give in. I don't know what to do.
     
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  2. In my opinion, this is a dangerous road to go down. If you get into a relationship with someone who doesn't respect you; it will drag you down even further than where you are now.
     
  3. See, rationally, my mind knows that. But my sexuality is totally consumed by thoughts about it.
     
  4. Red Moon

    Red Moon Fapstronaut

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    Do you want that fetish in your real sex life or just for masturbation ?
     
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  5. I have no idea. I've never had sex.
     
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  6. TheRaven8386

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    The reason you think you want this is because that's all you've ever known and you've programmed your brain and wired it to that. The fact that you're a virgin makes it worse because you haven't experienced real sex with a woman. Now even if you have a chance your brain is telling you it's better just to watch than to participate, because you've in a way brainwashed yourself. I'm guessing you have very low self-esteem issues and that's not me taking a shot at you or making fun of you because Lord knows I've been there. You may have convinced yourself that you don't even deserve to have sex and only deserve to watch.
     
  7. You can do this bro. But the key to suceed is the will. If you dont want to stop 100% its impossible to make it. I hope you will get that feeling soon so you can break free. Porn kills us brother. Time to fight back now. Take Care and God bless
     
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  8. I've had a sleepless Night! You think im gonna give in? No chance in hell. I'm done with this addicition. It has destroyed My life. This is My final stand.
     
  9. TheRaven8386

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    Also 48 days might be too soon for you see progress. If you addiction is bad enough it might take 90 days MINIMUM.
     
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  10. Thank you guys for the encouragement. I'll keep pushing on.
     
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  11. I_always_try_again

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    first just relax and be calm.

    take a book and start writing about your feelings

    on that writings you will slowly evolve and find the underlying issue you have which trigger the cuck mindset.

    maybe you have some traumas and which is hidden inside, so first know there is a root problem.

    cuck is formed, core of this fetish is watching porn.

    on watching porn we are the third man present who is a viewer of this act. so we are programming our mind to be a cuck or voyuer always in life.

    cuck will be balanced only after some nofap setbacks and failures. then only you will form a pathway from cuckoldry.

    resilience is the tool to deal with cuckoldry.
     
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  12. Red Moon

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    You are confused because of desensitization ( porn ) and sensitization ( cuckold fetish, pleasure memory ). It is a dopamine, novelty craving, not real sexual desire. Just do a reboot. If you want a real life, porn is not an option.
     
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  13. the_next_king

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    Hate to break this, but refraining from PMO alone won't fix a submissive fetish like this.

    What you must do is use the free time from no-PMO to create good habits—e.g., fix your diet, clean your room, whatever. Go to a gym and do strength training to boost your testostorone. Work on self-improvement—I am not going to drone on here since you can find lots of stuff about that online. Keep working on yourself, and you'll eventually start to perceive yourself in a positive light. That's when changes occur.

    If the rational part of your mind does not agree with this fetish (as you wrote in another post), that means you want change. So don't give up.
     
  14. TheRaven8386

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    Yes. As I said in my reply it's a self-esteem issue as well.
     
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