Coworkers: To Date or Not to Date?

Sorry about that, I didn't know that you already had asked her out.
Personally I wouldn't risk it. because a second ''no'' is more destructive.. (I'm some kind of conservative and arrogant guy and I can tell your success rate will decrease this way)
It's on you. No one of us are working in that office. You have experienced the moment and I can't get it completely just with words ..

And I've just read your other posts (I read just the first one earlier, sorry). It sounds to me, you're talking too passionate about her, you remembered and write us very detailed ;-)
Are you sure you're not in love buddy?

 

It may have been just fraternizing.. Is she the only girl that became comfortable with you? In other words, is she the only girl you had/have around? If yes, it may be "the problem". It's easy to fall in love if you did not see a girl in a very long time and all of a sudden one comes near you.
It should be added that usually girls understands very well if you are attracted to her and she may have already understood what you feel. In the worst case she may have played with you or she was just friendly...

I feel to say to keep broad! Talk to more girls, keep opportunities open. In that way you regain your attractiveness even towards her, if there's a chance. I mean, the "you don't make my happyness" attitude. The "i'm not desperate if you say me no" behaviour.

I've been there and i think you will never understand her. Waste of time!

I've been attracted to the wrong girl for a year and a half, waiting and waiting for something.. mixed signals were present since the beginning, with lies and weird behaviours.
She exibited jealousy and she behaved like she was interested on me. She refused me twice (i don't like you!) but one evening she pursued me, just when i was been pursued by another girl. What a coincidence!
In my story she is not a good pursue at all because of other reasons, and i understand now that if a girl is interested she will show. Playing games is for casual sex. You girl seems weird too. I tell you, brother, keep broad, don't focus on her, have lot of friends or acquaintances or experience or talk to a lot of girl and become comfortable with the other gender.

OR trash entirely what i've written if it's not good in your experience!!

And please make us know! I'm on your side, all the best!

 

So thoughtful and wise. I wish I could manage my emotions like you. When I'm attracted to some one, I act like a dumb monkey!

Wish you luck, prosperity and love, buddy.

 

Does she talk to other men and looks at you at the same time

 

Honestly OP I can relate with this story There was this girl looked like she was interested in me at the same time I tried to talk to her or be with her she would avoid me. Which she later tried to make me jealous. Which I ignored which got more obvious that she tried to get my attention. Put I still ignored her and move on with my life.

 

I’ve dated coworkers from part time jobs and at a career-level job. The part time dating escapades were fun—people all around the same age, love sessions in the parking lot. Pretty casual.

at career level, I dated one lady. She turned out to be crazy. It was a mess and it only worked out b/c she got fired.

I stayed away from coworkers for a lonnnggg time. Until I met my wife. But we worked in completely unrelated departments on different floors of the same building. And she wasn’t crazy.

For the OP—go for it. It’s a part time job, plenty of them if things go south. You’ll regret NOT asking her out more than losing a forgettable job.

 

I truly understand you try to talk to her or be with her yet she tries to make you jealous.

The best thing you could do is honestly try to move on and try to talk with other girls. She looks like she wants play games with you.

That she is for the excitement

I think when You decide to move on and the girl decides to do weird things to get your attention. Well is obvious you did the right.

 

funniest thing about it at the end of day she might me attracted to you

Put regardless the girl who this to me was high school. I honestly never thought women in your age would be this childish.

 

I thoroughly accept this plan of action, anything online is kind of dodgy and you don't know what she'll say behind you're back. Even report if necessary. Not to mention I've had similar co workers extremely like this gal right here. But I would only come to the conclusion that it was only to make them look good for supervisors that they can associate with new comers and better evaluate them. Not matter how nice and flirtatious they seemed to be towards me. I'm not sure exactly the time line you guys have first started working together. But it seems like you are catching vibes from her and staring is definitely a sign.

Watch out for dilated pupils this is also a tall tale sign she finds you attractive or interested. I've learned a few things on YouTube, it wouldn't be bad to see sign's if a woman likes you. Keep an eye out for hair playing and this has happened to me in the past numerous times. It's like just a sign that they are trying to be affectionate coming off to you. I've been working in the retail field for 8 + years of experience eventually you start to figure things out. Especially the customer couples on whose paying the bills. But definitely do it in person my friend. Only seems fishy in some cases.. If she continues this, then she is definitely interested.


But on the side note; don't feel down if she's doing it for business tendencies. Allot of Woman will do what it takes to make take the next move up on the latter even if it's flirting.

 

Sounds like you got it handled. You shot your shot.

 

Listen, most work relationships never tend to work especially in high business fields. I remember reading a post last year about a guy that grew close with a co worker and then it drifted just like the two of you. It’s very had to maintain especially with being at work together day by day around other females and males.


Believe me brother although you may feel let down about this, it’s a good learning curve for the future. Not something to be disappointed by. Most woman are high octane activists in the job field. Maybe you can sign up for an app or even Facebook date which has helped me. You can say this boosted my confidence.

 

Yeah especially professional jobs are risky, unless she is really the one pulling towards you. I’m not sure why she backed out and my I’m sorry to hear. Woman like the attack on most parts, but perhaps she wasn’t suited for a relationship at this time.

It seems like you’re on the right path, maybe you can pray for this right woman to come to you and ask for good luck from above, this sounds cliche but it really does help.