Chad, high value men and pickiness (hypergamy) of woman is to blame

If you truly believe the high value men are the ones getting the girls, why not become the best version of yourself and become a high value man?

 

High value doesn’t mean anything It’s all in your head. You want relationships, go talk to women

 

You think too much

 

there's no such guys as "average joes" and "chads"

 

Water finds it's own level. In other words, you will find a women who is essentially matched to the type of person that you are. If you are a very attractive guy, chances are you will end up with a very attractive woman. If you are insecure, you will end up with a woman who settled on you, because she is probably insecure also.
These are generalities, but for the most part it's true. The good news is there are plenty of women out there that are perfect for you. Get off social media and go find one.

 

Social media lol. It’s not real Life. Plus It’s only your perception. You don’t talk to girls you litteraly can’t know what’s real or not!

 

Man, if you want to date girls... You gotta go out there. There is no reward without risk. Also it's not new that powerful and rich man have an easier time. That has been happening for hundreds of years.

You can looks at the statistics and gets stuck on them and regret that you are not rich or a Chad for the rest of your life or you can go and live your life like all the other average dudes that went out there, had normal relationships, got married and were happy at the end of the day. And Honestly if you want date girls you gotta talk to them and risk rejection. I don't know what your spectations are but make sure they are reasonable.

Going back to your statistics, being good looking or having a big wallet can be attractive but I can assure you that personality can be as well. You can work on the first two, though it may take more time. The third you can start changing right now by working on your mindset.

 

Libido enslaves both genders, but gentlemen are far more desperate to have sex than the ladies. The Tinder economy is a symptom of that. Being patient enough and picky in a disciplined way, however, almost anyone can love mutually a woman attuned to their values. If a man don't even love himself, how can he proudly expect the opposite gender to do it?

 

I looked into the stats and you are correct, but there may be a reason for it. Here's what the article said "Almost a third of adult single men live with a parent. Single men are much more likely to be unemployed, financially fragile, and lack a college degree than those with a partner. They’re also likely to have lower median earnings; single men earned less in 2019 than in 1990, even adjusting for inflation. Single women, meanwhile, earn the same as they did 30 years ago." taken from - https://time.com/6104105/more-single-men-than-women/

It sounds like single men are spending too much time online when they should be out earning $ and finding hot babes. "Financially fragile" has never been a good thing to be, and women want to find guys that can provide for them. It's the way it has worked for a long time.
Good luck, I hope you find someone.

 

Where exactly is "out there"?

Genuine question.

 

Maybe loads of men are hooked on porn so don't bother.

 

Honestly, in my case I just got hooked on porn and completely took myself out of the dating game. I won't re-enter it(if at all) until I'm better.

Likewise though I'm sure there are many guys who turned to porn for the reason you stated.