Celibacy: Please Read If You Are Doing Hard Mode.

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by MelancholyWeightlifter, Apr 17, 2014.

  1. depo27

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    I feel so out and depressed, I wouldn't try to date another person after leaving my loved one. I don't care anymore, that's why I decided to stop these whole business of PMO. I decided to take medication, and I have no libido at all, it disappeared, it's all gone. I'm not a slave anymore of sexuality, I hate it so much. If I could be with the one I love, it would be different, but that's over. Life is so cruel. If life is like this I don't desire to feel sexual pleasure anymore. Luckily the hormones have been kind to me, and I feel no desire to date anyone. I feel no desire to have sex or PMO or anything. I don't need it and I don't want it.
     
  2. SemenIsYouth

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    Celebacy is great thing, I now completely understood the value of single drop of semen after reading precious book on celebacy. I don't want to be celebate forever coz of obvious reasons marriage and other, but today I am in dire need to become celebate, coz my life has been worst, useless so far... due to loss of semen.
    I haven't thought it for lifetime, but surely my body needs it atleast for 6 months. These days I'm struggling against mental celebacy because I know one day nightfall can spoil all my progress. We can become friends and share the experiences and help. Sure!
     
  3. MelancholyWeightlifter

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    Exactly bandanna. I wholeheartedly agree. It is true freedom.

    Depo26. Try to think of celibacy as positive. The world wants you to think relationships=happiness, but they don't. You can be happy if you choose to be. Use your new situation to do something awesome.
     
  4. Antis

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    I'm in! I'm doing this in hard mode. I'm thinking of not having sex anymore if not in the eventuality of procreating (which is very unlikely going to happen). I am open in theory to a relationship with a woman who will appreciate the celibacy, but maybe that's asking too much. Meanwhile, I quit all the flirting, I had enough of it.
    I can't write much now (K9 is going to block internet traffic soon and I am very busy these days), but wanted to join the thread because this is what I am doing.
    33 years old, I have always been a relationship guy, and sex and love for my partners used to be very important to me, central thing around which my life had to revolve. I have now spent about 16 months without sex, and a quite long no PMO streak (it should be something like 7/8 months, I was not counting days). 3 months without sex would have been inconceivable to me before.
    I have no religious reasons, it's all about the way I want to live the rest of my life, and the aim to a cleaner mind.
    I am happy I have found this group, I want to read and share motivations and progresses.
    Keep going everybody!
     
  5. MelancholyWeightlifter

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    Glad to hear it anti-speciesm. Fundamentally I'd just like people to know that celibacy, lifetime or no, is a viable and legitimate lifestyle choice. It's not sad, we aren't lonely, we don't all wish to be married but can't. It isn't forced on us, it's a choice, one we can be proud of.
     
  6. Finalfight123

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    tl;dr all

    I've recently been looking into mgtow which is similar to what you are doing. And I wonder if as guys without women we don't have anything weighing us down. That we are free to move in the direction of what we want. To be a great olypic lifter as well as any other aspirations or dreams you have. Honestly you shouldn't worry about women if you know what your lifelong aspiration is then there is nothing holding you back just you going into it.

    I'm afraid Im not quite at your level and to some degree it may be awhile before I ever do. I guess I just like women at the moment. But then I remember Batman doesn't have a girlfriend I wonder why maybe she would slow him down. Best of luck to you melancholy get the new pr dude.
     
  7. longhauler

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    I haven't had sex in about 3 years and I don't plan on doing it ever again (with a real life woman) so I guess I qualify.

    It's kind of funny, thinking about how much I've changed over the past 3 years. Almost all of my actions were centered around the pursuit of pussy - everything from working out, my selection of jobs, the way I dressed, and of course the many ways I tried to turn my introverted personality into a more extroverted one. Even my initial experience with nofap 2 years ago was probably just an attempt to make myself more desirable to women.

    I don't care about any of that now. Now, having sex is not even on my mind. It does not exist in my reality.

    How did I achieve this? There were probably 3 about steps

    1. Losing my virginity: After losing it in a one night stand, my desire for sex changed into a desire for a girlfriend
    2. Spirituality / Buddhism / Philosophy of simplicity: I basically read a ton of self-help books and came to the conclusion that I should be happy with what I currently have. My desire for a girlfriend was only causing me suffering/depression. I needed to declutter my mind of all that bullshit and simplify my life as much as possible
    3. MGTOW (Men Going Their Own Way): The MGTOW content on youtube was like a gift from the heavens. Learning about female nature from people like Karen Straughan and barbarossa gradually killed off my desire for a girlfriend completely

    Basically, most people see pros and cons for celibacy. For me, there are only pros. But I think you have to be able to see the pros from the outset to be happy with it. Choose celibacy for the freedom it brings. Choose celibacy because you have a higher purpose in life than being a utility for women. Live for yourself and love yourself

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    Although I might cave in once we have realistic robots that can cook and have sex with you whenever you wish. There are still problems with that scenario but it would be pretty fucking cool to have a robot harem... I don't know. It depends what my life is like in 10 years.
     
  8. IGY

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    What the hell is MGTOW? Modern 'communication' is bloated with acronyms. So, at least say what it stands for otherwise you are not communicating anything!
     
  9. longhauler

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    Sorry, I edited my post.
    MGTOW = Men Going Their Own Way
     
  10. MelancholyWeightlifter

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    Thanks finalfight. I'm positive that entering a relationship would greatly hinder my lifting and other goals. Get strong or die trying.

    It is such a pointless pursuit forumer, isn't it? It's good to know there are others that share my positive view of celibacy. Losing my virginity is not an option for me, but I'll definitely check out MGTOW. Maybe I'll be one of the very few to die a virgin? Lol. Kind of funny to think about. I think it would be quite the accomplishment.
     
  11. Squeaky Soul

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    I am so proud that you have made it past 300 days. Focus on how PMO is a very shameful act. I forgot how shameful it was, now look where I've ended up...

    :(
     
  12. MelancholyWeightlifter

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    Ah man...you just gotta get back up. You are capable of so much, you've already proved it. Day 1/365 for you. No more resets.
     
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  13. Squeaky Soul

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    Love you, man. I'll get back up there for you and everybody else.

    I'll change my account name to, "Iron Soul" at day 300. Then at one year I'll change my to "Steel Soul."

    ~Squeaky Soul
     
  14. tom1199

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    I'm so happy I found this thread. I'm in the process of changing my lifestyle away from being led primarily by my urges; hence I chose the hard mode. It hasn't been easy, relapses take place but luckily the last one was already an involuntary release, so I kknow I'm on the right path. I'm committed to keep myself on the hard mode, and reading these posts in this community are helping me a great deal. Today I reach the milestone of one week, and I'm looking forward to all those many future milestones. Two weeks, one month, two months... Wish me luck!

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  15. MelancholyWeightlifter

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  16. Stephen1195

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    I'm doing this too but aren't wetdreams considered outlet for sexual energy?
     
  17. denglm007

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    I am at my 22 days and looking to not PMO for a long long time, currently without any girlfriend gives me the chance for celibacy, so I am in!
     
  18. Rectify

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    We all start from squeaky beginnings. My Fuji road bike is all rusted on the chain and has a bent handle bar brake, she's gone to shit. Not even a year old she was. Entry level model granted. I left her outside most of this winter (I lost my license for being bad) so had to bike and take the bus damn near everywhere.

    I plan on getting a $2k+ tri bike this spring. Probably mostly carbon, I'm done with aluminum after this bike.

    I have a need for speed, and driving my car fast just is not safe for me or other drivers on the road. So I'm going to do some triathalons this summer.

    Look forward to seeing you progress and grow.
     
  19. BahaiGuy

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    As an unmarried Bahá'í, I'm on "hard mode" until I marry. Then it's STILL NoFap. I'm not even going to consider dating/courtship, though, until I reach day 90. Then I'll decide if I'm really ready to start searching again.
     
  20. MelancholyWeightlifter

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    Glad to hear it denglm and Bahai Guy. Stephen, as wet dreams are uncontrollable, I just ignore them. The body is just regulating itself.
     

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