Celibacy: Please Read If You Are Doing Hard Mode.

I'm doing hard mode for my 12 weeks. Having no outlet for sexual release sucks, but I've never really had luck with the ladies anyway. Celibacy is status quo for me.

 

I'm curious, why are you doing this? Sexuality is a beautiful thing. It should never be repressed.

 

This does not appeal to me but it would be interesting to hear how it pans out and what effects/changes occur later down the line.

 

I welcome this thread my friend. Ultimately, my goal is no edging, no masturbating and no pornography. The facts are that I am a virgin and I am 100% committed to non-negotiable, life-long celibacy. I agree that certain challenges we face are unique and especially difficult. I would really like to contribute and, I am sure, benefit from this discussion. Thank you

 

There is a huge difference between sexuality and violence.
Sexual repression is likely a cause of violence and sexual abuse
I don't want to go into a huge debate but we obviously have veery different opinions about sex

Sex mixed with anger and hate leads to abuse
Sex mixed with loved and compassion is beautiful and should be expressed

 

I agree that there's a world of difference between those giving up PMO because they want to improve their sexual performance etc, and those who take a moral view of PMO, sex and sexuality.

I think the reasons for celibacy are probably only because of a religious vow (which can be a very fruitful, beautiful thing) or because you're convinced that you have an unhealthy sexuality that you believe is morally wrong to express. The first route is propped up by spiritual benefits and community life, but the second one can be a very lonely and sad road, which is a serious burden to many.

 

"This is a thread for ideas to try to accomplish this goal. This is not a thread of reasons NOT to pursue this". Yes, exactly!

 

In my opinion, celibacy is okay if you are not able to have a sexual relationship with another person, be that physically or financially. However, if you are physically able to satisfy another person sexually and you can care for her financially, then I see no point in living in celibacy.
Sexual desires are part of being a human. It is like eating or drinking. If you try to supress it, it will be very difficult and it may lead to certain side effects.

But, it is your choice what to do with your life. And I respect that.
All the best and stay clean!

 

This is a thread for ideas to try to accomplish this goal. This is not a thread of reasons NOT to pursue this.

 

Celibacy is an interesting thing. It's probably THE most extreme form of hard mode. I don't envy you Melancholy. Our society bombards us with sexuality and promiscuity in every corner. However, many great people have gone without sex. Think of the Buddhist monks!

Sex can be the ultimate joy in life. But it can also be the ultimate bringer of pain and heartache. Like many people I was born from a loveless relationship. And I cannot help but think I would have become a much different person had my parents stayed together. Whatever YOUR reason is, I support it and encourage you to follow through.

Ironically enough, there's nothing women find sexier than a guy that can just speak to them like humans and treat them like intellectuals rather than objects. Your abstaining will actually make you MORE desirable to women in the long-run.

 

We are getting distracted here Could you suggest a starting point, MelancholyWeightlifter, so those of us with the goal of celibacy can get on with this discussion?

 

I have not had sex since 2009
I have not masturbated since 16 April 2013
I have edged in my sleep and struggle with porn and mental fapping (fantasising)
I wish to relieve myself of these sexual thoughts and sublimate this energy into something more productive
Can I join?

 

Welcome buddy! It will be great to have you here participating in this thread, sharing your experiences and perceptive

 

I would like to join.as to your question of:

To the first question: my religion requires abstinence until marriage which i am restricted for the next few years.unfortunately its not motivation its a thing I'm "required to do" which is why i think I've been unsuccessful in "nofap" so far.

as to your second question of what benefits i hope to receive? a clear conscience

 

Hello. I'm also on hardmode. Aiming for 90 days minimum.

My goal is to properly rewire my brain and stop being dependent on unnatural stimuli. I quite coffee for two weeks (might start that again soon though).

I've also reduced my alcohol consumption to once a week.

I'm just worried if my even once a week drinking will interfere and prolong the dopamine reward circuitry of nofap. Too bad not enough studies have been conducted on this yet, so its just one big experiment.

 

Thank you vertigo and melancholy
My motivation is purely personal growth - I wish to progress my evolution as a human being, moving away from the animal, towards sentience
Every religion speaks highly of abstinence - I just want to travel the path admired by our forefathers towards growth
I wish to achieve true unadulterated happiness that is not dependent on any external stimulus
I hope I make sense
Please forgive me if I don't
Thanks
Struggle