I’ve been using PMO every day constantly for over 20 years. I haven’t allowed myself to feel any uncomfortable feelings that whole time; drowning them out with more porn. I have 50 days sober today, so if someone as sick as me can do it then you can too! It’s not easy but it’s possible. We’re all routing for you! One thing to note, will power doesn’t seem to work for us. Just wanting and wishing with all our might doesn’t work well. We need to do some extra daily maintenance in order to get some relief. My daily maintenance, (which seems to work for others who I stole it from ), consists of daily Prayer, meditation, journaling, rigorous honesty, exercise, changed my eating habits and sleep schedule. I struggle with the prayer because I’m not religious, but every MorningI thank the universe for another beautiful day and take a look out the window. Hope this can help you on your journey! Oh and the daily maintenance takes me only about 45 minutes each day, so not horrible time loss.
There is a reason why we are all on this forum non of us is perfect we do relapse but we need to end it One thing i don´t understand is that there are so some useful youtube sides that does not have many subscribers like only 7000 subscribers compare to these dumb prank youtubers i have found couple of youtube sides that are very decisive solution to our problems We keep on relapsing until our lives being destroyed by this poisonous habit Try these links they are very useful
I would recommend getting a blocker on your computer....it's helped me to stay sober. It's like having a lock on the liquor cabinet. It's good to know porn isn't just a click away!
I started today and have set a timer app so I can see my progress, I also stopped drinking caffeine 6 weeks ago so I think I will be able to draw parrallels between the addictions and how they present. So far my biggest reflection from caffeine has to be the days when I’m low I become aware of how much my mind justifies how well I’ve done and how I deserve at this point a reward of the the very thing I am abstaining from, I also begin to bargain with myself normalising how it would be ok to have a relapse. In those times I remind myself that this is “the test” when I feel in control and I legitimise failure or relapse I am now in the hard yards and this is where I have to become my own dark knight, my own hero and the master of my choices. Good luck dudes
Dude, Great way of explaining the ways we trick ourselves into relapse!! Reward ourselves from abstaining...with the exact thing that ruined our lives!! Lol addicted brains are funny (and by funny I mean evil and painful!) This is our danger. And this is why I have to do the daily maintenance to prepare for these moments. The huge moments of chaos are hard, but also the causal mind games are also just as hard
Back to day 0 it sucks man. Basically i finished my exam and got some time to relax and ended up relapsing, day 3 was done , day 4 was about to come . This sucks man . Got another exam after 2 days .
Sorry to here that. Hang in there you can do it! Did you praying, meditating and journaling daily? These are what really help me stay sober. Also reaching out on here for help before deciding to relapse and writing about my feelings of why I want to act out sexually. Good luck and really good that your staying active on here!
You think that these porn stars will ever admit that they have a tough life ? They only focus on money gambling with their lives i can imagine how it feel get paid 20 to 30000 $ dollars and living in a villa party as much as you want but deep down inside there is no happiness. When you watching porn you are actually watching slaves that are forced to do scenes that they would never do in real life like one girls is having sex with 5 sweaty smelly hairy sex predators peeing all over her forcing to drink the 5 men pee what is so fantastic about it ? There are cases where they drug some performers so she won´t deny anything that they ask for. The more we support these criminals the more we recruit young teenagers to do the same mistake as the others and sadly this ugly cykle will continue and the porn industri will benefit from us and be richer destroying peoples relationship and marriages. We are only recruiting more younger people to destroy their lives by supporting these porn industri
I second the advice that you need to find surrogate activities to replace the time and energy you used for PMO. Meditation is good, but it is not for everyone. Do you have any ideas what you could do? It's all about replacng bad habits with good habits. Moreover, of course you should avoid relapses at all cost, but as you apparently can't assume that you will go PMO-free for 10 years from scratch: Try to learn from your relapses. Reflect on how you felt, what you did that day and the day before, and so on, and may be you can find out what triggers you. Personally, I've often reached an inner point of no return. You could argue that you always have control over your body and can always decide to not touch yourself, but I often had the feeling some sort of auto pilot started taking over hours or days before. If you know that auto pilot, watch yourself carefully to figure out when he is saying hallo. If he does, do not trust him, but the best thing would be to avoid meeting him right away, as in do not cross this point of no return. Wish you a lot of success!