At my breaking point and losing hope

That sounds really tough man. I think anyone in your situation would feel the same. I wish you the best, and hopefully you will find your way through. Can you speak to a counselor or therapist? Have you ever seen any medical professional about this? I wish I had better advice for you, but Ive only just started my journey. Dont give up brother. A lot of people start thier lifes over who are much older than you are. There is still plenty of time to get ahold of this. Your best life is still ahead of you. Stay strong. Keep moving forward. You got this!

 

Do you actually know you can't perform with a woman, I mean have you tried to? Or is it just the fear that holds you back? Either way, this is a very tough situation. If 7 months hard mode still doesn't work, then I don't know, it might be something else. Have you been checked for low testosterone? Or a thyroid problem? Diabetes? Any other problem that causes erectile issues?

 

I'm sorry to hear about the things you are suffering from...

You should definitely see a doctor for erectile dysfunction, if nothing works for your erectile dysfunction then you can go to a reputed urologist and have a penile implant, it will cure your erectile dysfunction.

 

This is exactly my thoughts. I don't know about the penile implant, but there is a lot of different amazing medications out there that can probably fix ED. Start with a doctor, maybe best to start with a urologist who specializes in ED.

 

I just want to say,that everything that you wrote here,every single word is about me,my life,and my reboot. I literally can say that this problem is ruining my psycho. Im 30 years old, i moved in another country,where i was all alone,i felt terrible, this loneless feeling is just killing you from inside...but once i just analyze everything, and the moment i got that porn was my problem ,that porn was reason why something in my head is not working i said to myself that i will win this fight..no matter how many years it will costs. From that time past 2,5 years...and im losting my hope too..because i feel that i almost win this illness,but i feel too that it can just be some illusion..i cant give up..just can't..
I don't know if its even possible to change brain..becouse it literally physically has damaged by pmo..and all this 2,5 years i feel physically that my brain is changing, i feel some process ..but when it will over..i don't know..
I think me and you ,people who met porn to soon than other..and everyone telling that we need more time..but nobody even don't know how hard just to start some relationship and just tell her that y cant be a man. Just can't..

 

Thanks for sharing an honest post about how PMO has affected your life..

Some people serve 20 year prison sentences and get out of prison and have to find a way to start their lives again...

Maybe you should like at your situation like you have been in prison for the past 17 years (since you were 18). In prison, there is no access to sex. You were in prison... but now you have a chance to live as a free man again.

If your penis isn't working.. then just forget about sex and relationships. Try to find enjoyment in other things.

Also, this obsession with a relationship and sex.. it is all in your mind. These thoughts you are having, YOU are the one producing the thoughts, so you can therefore change them too.

Also, you don't need to have a "successful life", like being rich, living in a big house, with a fancy car, a wife, and kids. Why not just try to live a simple life at first? Maybe read a good book, something that can get you thinking a little differently.

Also, even if a guy has really good memories of his past and had a great life... in the end, they are just memories. Yea, they might provide some warm feelings and a sense of accomplishment/selfworth.. but the truth is.. even the guy who had great things all his life still loses them in the end..

we all lose everything in the end... there is hope though still because God can resurrect us from the dead... but we all will lose everything someday.. at least temporarily

so you really aren't in that worse of a spot than the rest of the people in the world. Don't be fooled by the television and social media posts.. people post stuff when they are at their best, so that's why we see social media and think everyone is having fun.. but the reality is, most of those people aren't having fun 24/7. They are probably only having fun a few hours a week, but all of their posts are from them having fun, but their life isn't all fun all the time

 

There are a lot of stuff that you are goinf through. I understand. But i feel the worse we can do is to be at odds with ourselves. I wont say i have solution to all your problems, i hope you circumstances get better.

 

The low self-esteem that comes as a result of PMO addiction and subsequent impotence sucks. It even makes some dudes suicidal. And it's obvious from reading your post that the only thing that's going to actually cure you is breaking that habit.

It's the same for me and most of us on this forum, and there really is no euphemistic way of putting it. It's like either break the habit, or live in personal shame and die. I've already made peace with the fact that if I can't do it, then all of these negative consequences is basically what I deserve.

 

I have the opposite problem, not PIED but autism that makes social interactions very difficult for me. Especially romantically.

I am doomed to live alone becouse of it. Belive me i have tried..
40+ years, unkissed virgin. Yep. The only way to cope was to say f*ck it. I dont care anymore. I concentrate on the few things i still enjoy, like my hobbys, movies and music. The only reason i do nofap is to enjoy these things more without the brainfog and emotional numbness from PMO use.

Lowering my expectations of what to expect from life has actually made me feel happier inside. I think its easy to fall into the trap that to think everyone else has it much better. Tibetan monks have next to nothing and they are said to be the happiest on earth. Not that i know that for sure but makes you think.

 

I hope this guy comes back to the thread he started.

He's got a lot of people to help out.

See this is the problem, many times dudes come here,
bang out a big massive problem in a thread,
then never return.

His returning is where he can get the help and make changes.

Anyway, you guys are awesome for trying to help him.

If I can help you or you just want to chat, please send me a msg.